Originally Posted by biggoofy*******
Seven years ago I was 25 living at home with mom, scared to move out even if it was in the same town, lonely as hell, no friends, and a virgin.
Following what david teaches helped me get a girlfriend of six years, soon to be wife, moved across country with a new vehicle and nothing else, no place to live, no friends or family out here, no job, leaving behind more friends than I'd had in my life. I am able to talk with strangers with no problem now, and will go out on my day off to walk through a mall packed with people because I like to be around it.
It wasn't an overnight transformation, it took years of work to build my confidence and retrain my thinking patterns. Anyone who thinks it's about being manipulative, or phony, doesn't get what he is teaching. It's about the opposite. A lot of it is learning to stand up for yourself, expecting to be treated with respect, not letting yourself feel or be treated as inferior to someone else.
Don't get me wrong, he's not my guru or anything lol, I never bought anything from him, just his freebie stuff is what I used. I hadn't even thought of his name in years until I read this thread. But his stuff helped me out immensely with my SA
Ironically, this is where I started too. His stuff is great for motivation but there really isn't any need to be a jerk to women, and not saying that he teaches that but the mentality is "cocky and funny", which can be coined another word: flirting.
A lot of this pickup stuff reflects on a superficial reality, which ironically, may be true, but it also focuses a lot of insecure people, and not just men but women as well.. It is important to understand the difference between a healthy relationship and some screwball chick you try to "pick up" sometime.
The stuff just delves deep into reflection and makes you question things about yourself and others, which is good in itself, but the boundary needs to be drawn so you stay true to yourself and not some "Mystery" wannabe walking around throwing magic tricks at girls. You can be kind, honest and polite. The best "game" or line isn't a cocky and funny bit, but instead an overall attitude (confidence) you have, which doesn't really come from being someone you aren't. David teaches guys that rejection is part of the whole ordeal, but then again so is dating in general without his information. It is a good confidence booster, motivator and philosophical gathering of information, but that is it really.
I haven't listened to his stuff probably since I was 20. Ironically, it has helped me become a better person oddly enough, and only because it made me question and try, and not because I use a cocky and funny routine or do "negs" on women. I wonder what new stuff he has released? Although, nowadays I don't think I could listen to too much of it without saying "This guy...". If you had listened to enough of his stuff you would of noticed his material didn't cover relationships, and that is probably because it could only cover one other thing (hint). I used to think that maybe I could be a 40 year old dating a 22 year old, but nowadays I realize how incredibly mismatched that'd be. Eh...