Social Anxiety Support

NR. · 02-08-2009, 09:28 AM

Haha.. you could take a sleep aid instead. I was taking one 50mg capsule of 5-HTP on nights I couldn't fall asleep, and it would work well!..usually within 20mins. Any more than 50mg gave me a headache because I think I have enough serotonin. The only drawback was the next morning (made horny as **!)

Non · 02-08-2009, 11:23 AM

I currently take melatonin and drink teas to sleep. i've also had severe insomnia for the past 4 yrs also so..

sanspants08 · 02-11-2009, 02:55 PM

This has been an interesting thread. However, I can't imagine the "benefits" of being "master of your domain," as Jerry Seinfeld would say, for an extended period of time, outweighing the "costs." I understand that it can help you change your perception, and that the energy can be used in other ways...but it seems as though the heightened anxiety from pent-up sexual tension could cause some great problems before you get used to the feeling.

For example, I work a job that is sometimes very stressing. I have to keep others calm...and I can't imagine being able to do so while trying to "channel" sexual energy as it, uh, arises at inopportune times.

It sounds like the kind of idea to test only in low-stress situations. Like when you're on vacation.

radiohead · 02-11-2009, 03:41 PM

Very unique thread, very unique.

I think the whole sexual energy spectrum can be quite useful, but I think a big part can be attributed to the psychological effects for those of us without a mate who have to please themselves. Likes someone stated, having to masterbate as an adult because you are unable to really have a constant enough relationship with a woman that escalates into sexual experiences, well, it can be frustrating and sad over time.

While it's not always the case(probably a minority), I've read reports of people who masterbate daily having added guilt, loneliness, and similar feelings of depression. I know there have been times where I pleased myself and felt like a complete loser after, full of this self-loathing shame that I had to do it myself. From ages 16 to about 20 I had a few serious girl-friends and a very healthy sex life, but the past 3 or so years have been the opposite......as my anxiety and depression have prevented me from seeking out or being comfortable in a serious relationship...........anyway...

Someone said it: It's about moderation. It's healthy when you have that unstoppable urge, maybe once or twice a week, but I think if someone does it daily or multiple times a day it can turn into an unhealthy addiction. Porn+masterbation addiction is at like a record high in the U.S., and if you depend on it to ever make yourself "feel good" for the time it lasts you might think about changing your behavior.

Personally I do it about once a week, depending on the "urge".

BUt I've noticed even as I am nearly 23 that if I go more than a week without doing it, sometimes less, that I end up having a wet-dream, and it really is messy like others stated.....as well as a bit humiliating at this age.

Store that sexual energy in moderation....but if you can go 6 months I guess all the more power to you.

Next step: learn to be comfortable seeking out relationships with the opposite sex....then you don't have to worry about pleasing yourself out of loneliness. ahhhh

Prodigal Son · 02-11-2009, 05:12 PM

I don't think you should feel ashamed or like a loser just for masturbating, but once a day is bad? Are you kidding me? If it starts interfering with your life it is a problem, but you're human and a man. You need an outlet and a release.

There is this irrational fear of embarrassment over masturbation and I think it is all BS.

millenniumman75 · 02-11-2009, 09:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by radiohead

Personally I do it about once a week, depending on the "urge".

BUt I've noticed even as I am nearly 23 that if I go more than a week without doing it, sometimes less, that I end up having a wet-dream, and it really is messy like others stated.....as well as a bit humiliating at this age.

This should not be embarrassing at all. As men, we are lucky to be continuously producing throughout our lives. Women aren't so lucky - they eventually go through menopause. The wet dream is just a way to remove excess as we can only hold so much down there!

VCL XI · 02-12-2009, 12:00 AM

With the exception of when I'm sick and on cold medicine, I also have to have sweet release nightly or I won't sleep a wink.

Hell, I didn't have a wet dream until college when I "stored up" for over a month as an experiment. My brain's so pathetic that the dream itself was about me looking at porn on my computer. Didn't see much of a point in avoiding the regular routine after that. My "ej's" seem to be more satisfying and powerful than ever.

02-11-2009, 05:12 PM	#45 (permalink)
Prodigal Son Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: The Wastelands (Kansas) Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 2,090	I don't think you should feel ashamed or like a loser just for masturbating, but once a day is bad? Are you kidding me? If it starts interfering with your life it is a problem, but you're human and a man. You need an outlet and a release. There is this irrational fear of embarrassment over masturbation and I think it is all BS. __________________ I know you can see me. Bad guys always see me. My plans suck. People die. It's always a mess.

02-08-2009, 09:28 AM	#41 (permalink)
NR. Status: male Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: U.S. Posts: 44	Haha.. you could take a sleep aid instead. I was taking one 50mg capsule of 5-HTP on nights I couldn't fall asleep, and it would work well!..usually within 20mins. Any more than 50mg gave me a headache because I think I have enough serotonin. The only drawback was the next morning (made horny as **!)

02-08-2009, 11:23 AM	#42 (permalink)
Non Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Miami Age: 23 Posts: 121	I currently take melatonin and drink teas to sleep. i've also had severe insomnia for the past 4 yrs also so..

02-11-2009, 02:55 PM	#43 (permalink)
sanspants08 Status: Has Ramen Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: York, PA/Gettysburg, PA Gender: Male Posts: 857	This has been an interesting thread. However, I can't imagine the "benefits" of being "master of your domain," as Jerry Seinfeld would say, for an extended period of time, outweighing the "costs." I understand that it can help you change your perception, and that the energy can be used in other ways...but it seems as though the heightened anxiety from pent-up sexual tension could cause some great problems before you get used to the feeling. For example, I work a job that is sometimes very stressing. I have to keep others calm...and I can't imagine being able to do so while trying to "channel" sexual energy as it, uh, arises at inopportune times. It sounds like the kind of idea to test only in low-stress situations. Like when you're on vacation.

02-11-2009, 03:41 PM	#44 (permalink)
radiohead Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Stuck in my own Mind Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 163	Very unique thread, very unique. I think the whole sexual energy spectrum can be quite useful, but I think a big part can be attributed to the psychological effects for those of us without a mate who have to please themselves. Likes someone stated, having to masterbate as an adult because you are unable to really have a constant enough relationship with a woman that escalates into sexual experiences, well, it can be frustrating and sad over time. While it's not always the case(probably a minority), I've read reports of people who masterbate daily having added guilt, loneliness, and similar feelings of depression. I know there have been times where I pleased myself and felt like a complete loser after, full of this self-loathing shame that I had to do it myself. From ages 16 to about 20 I had a few serious girl-friends and a very healthy sex life, but the past 3 or so years have been the opposite......as my anxiety and depression have prevented me from seeking out or being comfortable in a serious relationship...........anyway... Someone said it: It's about moderation. It's healthy when you have that unstoppable urge, maybe once or twice a week, but I think if someone does it daily or multiple times a day it can turn into an unhealthy addiction. Porn+masterbation addiction is at like a record high in the U.S., and if you depend on it to ever make yourself "feel good" for the time it lasts you might think about changing your behavior. Personally I do it about once a week, depending on the "urge". BUt I've noticed even as I am nearly 23 that if I go more than a week without doing it, sometimes less, that I end up having a wet-dream, and it really is messy like others stated.....as well as a bit humiliating at this age. Store that sexual energy in moderation....but if you can go 6 months I guess all the more power to you. Next step: learn to be comfortable seeking out relationships with the opposite sex....then you don't have to worry about pleasing yourself out of loneliness. ahhhh

02-12-2009, 12:00 AM	#47 (permalink)
VCL XI Status: n/a Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,566	With the exception of when I'm sick and on cold medicine, I also have to have sweet release nightly or I won't sleep a wink. Hell, I didn't have a wet dream until college when I "stored up" for over a month as an experiment. My brain's so pathetic that the dream itself was about me looking at porn on my computer. Didn't see much of a point in avoiding the regular routine after that. My "ej's" seem to be more satisfying and powerful than ever.