Bodybuilding is not the answer!!!

[Awkward Penguin]

Listen up guys because i only created this account to share my experience with you about this subject

Age:21
Social anxiety level: about 8,5

*note that my english is not very good*

I remember developing SA at the age of 15 and i started lifting weights at the age of 16 mainly because i though i "was too skinny for girls to like me".
I have been doing this unnatural thing called bodybuilding for 4 years (16-20)
I never felt "big enough" even if i was 85kg and 1.80m tall at the age of 19
It's been 1 year since i dropped this stupid activity and i started facing my problems.

Please belive me guys: Girls don't give a **** if you are muscular or not. Getting bigger muscles will not make you more confident (on the long term)
I'm now able to accept my body the way it is and it feels 10 times better than constantly aiming for more muscle mass

I'd like to share more with you, but as you may have noticed, english is quite hard for me, and i find it hard to express what i have to say

If you want to do something concrete about your S.A.D, start doing a lot of outdoor phisical activity and spend more time in the sun. This will REALLY help you mental and phisical state!
ah, and drop any S.A.D medicine unless you wanna die

[PaysageDHiver]

I can identify. I was skinny in high school, and began to eat and lift like crazy to overcome it. I eventually got up to 230 pounds (at 5'10") during my sophomore year in college. I carried the weight pretty well, but my body fat percentage was way too high (probably ~25%). It was only last year that I realized that this isn't healthy and that most people don't find this look appealing. I'm now down to 177, feel great, look much better, and am getting more attention from females.

[67budp]

Sounds like you started working out for the wrong reason. No one said you had to be a body builder to attract women or get over your sa. Working out happens to be a good stress reducer and is a healthy part of a daily routine. It's also a good way to meet new people if you go to a gym. Your right, big muscles don't attract the majority of women, but they do appreciate a man that takes care of himself physically.

[slushie87]

Originally Posted by 67budp

Sounds like you started working out for the wrong reason. No one said you had to be a body builder to attract women or get over your sa. Working out happens to be a good stress reducer and is a healthy part of a daily routine. It's also a good way to meet new people if you go to a gym. Your right, big muscles don't attract the majority of women, but they do appreciate a man that takes care of himself physically.

Agreed. It should be about what makes you feel good and confident. If someone wants to get into bodybuilding because it will make them feel confident and take their build to the next level then they should be able to..if someone hates lifting weights and doesn't care about having muscles then it's not for them. What happened to just doing it for you?

[Zerix]

Very pointless thread...

Lifting is good!

[hiimnotcool]

lol. i like looking big in clothes. bodybuilding is a means to achieve that.

u mad?

[SupaDupaFly]

Well it seems you were doing it for the wrong reason. Being in shape creates confidence. confidence creates being more social. What does that give you? improves you as a person inside and outside.. Bodybuilding is not stupid. its a lifestyle that can change lives for the good. you mirin?

[Shredder]

I can relate to what you are saying but I have not given up training, just shifted my goals & focus a little. We all have different goals in life. I guess the thing is that some people are happy enough to just be big and don’t care about anything else. For me, I don’t think body building helped with SA. Like many things in life, if you’re trying to compensate for your insecurities the perceived 'cure' can easily just mask the problem in itself as it may leave underlying issues unaddressed.

I think you have to keep in mind that it may however make another person feel better about themselves. If that makes them happy and gives them confidence to have social exposure and get used interaction with other people then I guess it can work.

Also keep in mind that meds have probably saved many lives, again they may not be for everyone, and each individual needs to figure out what works for them.

[Kakumbus]

Yes yes , lets all get fat and stop exercise because you done it for the wrong reasons.

[hiimnotcool]

Originally Posted by SupaDupaFly

Well it seems you were doing it for the wrong reason. Being in shape creates confidence. confidence creates being more social. What does that give you? improves you as a person inside and outside.. Bodybuilding is not stupid. its a lifestyle that can change lives for the good. you mirin?

do u even lift?

[50piecesteve]

we do what the **** we wanna do, its our thangggggggg -_-

[Jr189]

Originally Posted by 67budp

Sounds like you started working out for the wrong reason. No one said you had to be a body builder to attract women or get over your sa. Working out happens to be a good stress reducer and is a healthy part of a daily routine. It's also a good way to meet new people if you go to a gym. Your right, big muscles don't attract the majority of women, but they do appreciate a man that takes care of himself physically.

Well said bro.

[LittleBearBrah]

notsureifsrs?

[millenniumman75]

Originally Posted by SupaDupaFly

Well it seems you were doing it for the wrong reason. Being in shape creates confidence. confidence creates being more social. What does that give you? improves you as a person inside and outside.. Bodybuilding is not stupid. its a lifestyle that can change lives for the good. you mirin?

It takes dedication to do anything like this.

Originally Posted by hiimnotcool

do u even lift?

I don't, but you know I run.

Originally Posted by Jr189

Well said bro.

See, JR189 agrees with SupaDupaFly. I am trying to keep my Paxil fat down. It ain't fun carrying a medication-induced spare tire everywhere, so I will deflate it as much as possible. It also relieves stress, and even tires me out. I run so much, I am usually good to fall asleep within three hours if I try.

[Dr Hobo Scratch MD]

i say dont just focus on your body. develop all your important internal parts of yourself. let the bodybuilding be the icing on the cake. the ribbon to a beautiful expensive well wrapped gift.

[mzmz]

and its healthier to just run and do crunches and stuff so my question is

what gives men the impression that weight is such a great idea?

Skinny is hot, why go ruin that with bulk??

[cold fission cure]

thx for this. never realized i wasn't working out my body - I was working out my demons. time to sell my stuff. does anybody need a suzanne somers Thighmaster (heavily used) or EZ-gym (moderately used)?? bodybuilders pay double.

i also have pink weights, blue weights, and then a bunch of weights that aren't colors (they have numbers on them). bodybuilder surcharge applies.

[Kakumbus]

Originally Posted by cold fission cure

thx for this. never realized i wasn't working out my body - I was working out my demons. time to sell my stuff. does anybody need a suzanne somers Thighmaster (heavily used) or EZ-gym (moderately used)?? bodybuilders pay double.

i also have pink weights, blue weights, and then a bunch of weights that aren't colors (they have numbers on them). bodybuilder surcharge applies.

look like you been waiting for someone to tell you to stop.

[slushie87]

Originally Posted by mzmz

and its healthier to just run and do crunches and stuff

That's not true....

[hiimnotcool]

Originally Posted by mzmz

and its healthier to just run and do crunches and stuff so my question is

what gives men the impression that weight is such a great idea?

Skinny is hot, why go ruin that with bulk??

lol...


please go. the only girls who don't like muscular bodies are the ones who feel inadequate and insecure because they aren't doing anything to make their bodies better.