Social Anxiety Support

Zombie Sheep · 10-11-2009, 08:36 PM

Hi again everybody!

I'm sick and tired of ranting about how lonely I am. So, I've finally decided to man up and actually join some dating sites. I've been putting this off for years - always telling myself I'm not ready. Need to be a better person first. Need to get over my phobias. That's because I'm a freaking moron!

That, my friends, is LOSER TALK! No longer am I going to sit here feeling sorry for myself, drowning my sorrows in fortified lager, listening to the bedsprings creaking as the neighbours downstairs have annoyingly noisy sex. Oh no, I'm actually going to do something about it. Admittedly, entirely using the interweb like the irredeemable social coward that I am - but it's a start right? Right?

This may, of course, sound very lame to some people here. Try and remember - this is my WORST social fear. I'd rather give a speech on quantum mechanics naked in front of an audience of thousands than go on a date with a woman. This is gonna suck b*lls, I'm not kidding myself, but what else can I do? Spend the rest of my life on here venting? NEVER!

I'm getting my dad to photo me tommorrow, then I'll be set.

Wish me luck!

scrotobaggins · 10-11-2009, 09:08 PM

Right on mate, that's the spirit I like to see!

And it's not lame at all, man - online dating is pretty common nowadays. No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed at all.

I wish you luck with it, and I wanna' hear success stories!

And who knows, you might even meet a woman who enjoys listening to someone talk about quantum mechanics naked... there's a sexual fantasy for everything :P

Zombie Sheep · 10-11-2009, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by scrotobaggins

Right on mate, that's the spirit I like to see!

And it's not lame at all, man - online dating is pretty common nowadays. No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed at all.

I wish you luck with it, and I wanna' hear success stories!

And who knows, you might even meet a woman who enjoys listening to someone talk about quantum mechanics naked... there's a sexual fantasy for everything :P

Cheers pal!

Don't hold your breath for any success stories though... It's gonna take a long time and a lot of venting by me on the 'Frustration' forum before I even get a date - if I even ever do.

I've just been skim-reading some 'pick up artist' guides online - and I've just realised how far up sh!t creek I actually am. God those books are DEPRESSING! Women, apparently, only go for uber-confident, successful, witty alpha males. Hmmm - could I be any *less* like those guys?

'Nice Guys Suck and Women Hate Them' - that was actually the title of one of the books! OMG I'm so super-screwed when it comes to this sort of thing it's not even funny - I'm just praying I can find somebody who's *really* desperate...

Still, thanks for believing in me though man! I can do this! It's not like I'm fussy!

scrotobaggins · 10-11-2009, 10:36 PM

Man, don't fall into that mumbo jumbo. It is true that a lot of women like alpha male types, but there's also a lot of women who don't. Most alpha male types are narcissistic douchebags anyway - those are the kind of cocky guys that a lot of women hate. Yes, they have the confidence that a lot of us wish we had, but that's something that we can work on. You don't have to turn into a douchebag to have confidence!

I'd be lying if I said I didn't give those kinds of books a looksee too, but that's not where you should be looking for advice - it's not legit (in my opinion). It's such an easy way to make money - I mean, come on, what guy doesn't want to meet more women? It's a genius strategy on the authors' part, and a LOT of guys DO buy those kinds of books. But, I personally think it's a load of crap.

But man, a lot of women move on to dating sites because they want to meet a nice guy. A lot of them are sick of the bar scene and meeting douchewads who only want them for sex. You'll definitely see a lot of women users with headlines like "where are all the good guys at?", that kind of thing. Deep down inside, I think most women want guys like us. I mean, who doesn't want to meet a nice person? It seems silly to want to be with someone who's a turd burglar. We're just afraid to be ourselves and let loose, so people just think we're boring. Well we're not! And I don't think there's such a thing as 'too nice'. Being nice is an amazing trait to have, and eventually, a lot of women are going realize that it's guys like us that they want.

So don't give in to all that crap. I believe in you!

Zombie Sheep · 10-11-2009, 11:09 PM

Scrotobaggins (s******, sorry - that's still the best name ever) - thanks, that was a quality post!

You know what? (sorry to rant btw)...

F*** those sleazeballs and their pathetic bullsh!t pua headf***ology. F*** them right in the eye! I'm not lining the pockets of those r-tarded jock a***holes, I'm not buying a single one of their creepy little books, and I'm gonna make a point of going on these websites and... Shock horror... Being myself!

It's called having INTEGRITY - a concept all these manipulative little bedpost-notching, woman-hating scumbags don't seem to understand.

Too bl00dy right feller, thanks. I'm sick of all this total cr*p about how only d!ckholes get laid, and I'm not falling for it. Beta males rule!

Cheers! That's given me a lot of confidence!

Zombie Sheep · 10-11-2009, 11:09 PM

LOL! I typed in s-n-i-g-g-e-r and it starred out the last six letters... I wonder why that was...

scrotobaggins · 10-12-2009, 07:53 AM

Right on mate, that's what I like to hear! And don't give up! It's so easy to feel discouraged and walk away, but you gotta' be patient. Perseverance shows that you know what you want and that you aren't afraid to go for it, regardless of the obstacles - women definitely like that. So keep at it man!

Good luck mate!

Rixy · 10-12-2009, 08:37 AM

Good for you for trying. And as good as giving a speech on quantum mechanics naked in front of an audience of thousands sounds...It'd probably be better to go on a date.

somethinginthewind · 10-12-2009, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Zombie Sheep

I'm sick of all this total cr*p about how only d!ckholes get laid, and I'm not falling for it. Beta males rule!

Toad Licker · 10-12-2009, 11:11 AM

Good luck ZS!

fhoadv · 10-12-2009, 11:23 AM

Go get them Zombie Sheep! Good luck.

Zombie Sheep · 10-12-2009, 12:18 PM

Wow! Thanks for being so nice!

You really are all friendly, kind, tolerant and thoughtful people! Don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise!

My mate came round this afternoon, but he left early... So I still have time to get round my folks and get that picture taken... Gotta hurry tho, so I'll be off asap.

Anyway, cheers again!

jellybelly · 10-12-2009, 02:54 PM

Good luck!

I joined a dating site recently but haven't talked to anyone on it as I'm don't want to make the leap of actually being a paid member and being able to contact people. Though someone sent me a message on it and I can't read it without paying. Boo.

Again, good luck!

KyleThomas · 10-12-2009, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Zombie Sheep

Wow! Thanks for being so nice!

You really are all friendly, kind, tolerant and thoughtful people! Don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise!

My mate came round this afternoon, but he left early... So I still have time to get round my folks and get that picture taken... Gotta hurry tho, so I'll be off asap.

Anyway, cheers again!

Good luck, Mr Sheep!

Zombie Sheep · 10-12-2009, 04:45 PM

jellybelly - Cheers!

Umm... If there's actually a guy trying to meet you - shouldn't you shell out? He might be a really nice feller! Worth a fiver or whatever it is for a month right?

Anyway, thanks a lot for your kind words... Like I say, this isn't exactly something I'm gonna find easy, so fair play to you and everybody else for being so encouraging!

KyleThomas -

I'll need it!

Got my photos now... Signing up 2moro - OMG!

meyaj · 10-12-2009, 06:35 PM

I've considered doing this but am terrified of what I consider to be the inevitable collapse when she finds out I don't have a -single- friend.

bowlingpins · 10-12-2009, 06:44 PM

hey, I have read some of your posts. You seem like a friendly person. Good luck with the dating.

JMX · 10-12-2009, 09:47 PM

Good luck, we're all rooting for you. Just remember that you have nothing to lose.

TheDaffodil · 10-13-2009, 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by meyaj

I've considered doing this but am terrified of what I consider to be the inevitable collapse when she finds out I don't have a -single- friend.

I'll be your friend. I actually count as 5 friends...I'm really good at it.

Good luck, bud!

veron · 10-13-2009, 11:46 AM

Good luck Zombie Sheep. A person with that username has got to be interesting

10-11-2009, 08:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
Zombie Sheep Status: Ovine Undead Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 292	Zombie Sheep is gonna get a date LOL! (yeah right) Hi again everybody! I'm sick and tired of ranting about how lonely I am. So, I've finally decided to man up and actually join some dating sites. I've been putting this off for years - always telling myself I'm not ready. Need to be a better person first. Need to get over my phobias. That's because I'm a freaking moron! That, my friends, is LOSER TALK! No longer am I going to sit here feeling sorry for myself, drowning my sorrows in fortified lager, listening to the bedsprings creaking as the neighbours downstairs have annoyingly noisy sex. Oh no, I'm actually going to do something about it. Admittedly, entirely using the interweb like the irredeemable social coward that I am - but it's a start right? Right? This may, of course, sound very lame to some people here. Try and remember - this is my WORST social fear. I'd rather give a speech on quantum mechanics naked in front of an audience of thousands than go on a date with a woman. This is gonna suck b*lls, I'm not kidding myself, but what else can I do? Spend the rest of my life on here venting? NEVER! I'm getting my dad to photo me tommorrow, then I'll be set. Wish me luck! __________________ Zombie Sheep Gentleman. Scholar. Thread-Killer. If I just killed your thread... I'M SORRY!

10-11-2009, 11:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
Zombie Sheep Status: Ovine Undead Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 292	Scrotobaggins (s****, sorry - that's still the best name ever) - thanks, that was a quality post! You know what? (sorry to rant btw)... F* those sleazeballs and their pathetic bullsh!t pua headf*ology. F* them right in the eye! I'm not lining the pockets of those r-tarded jock a**holes, I'm not buying a single one of their creepy little books, and I'm gonna make a point of going on these websites and... Shock horror... Being myself! It's called having INTEGRITY - a concept all these manipulative little bedpost-notching, woman-hating scumbags don't seem to understand. Too bl00dy right feller, thanks. I'm sick of all this total crp about how only d!ckholes get laid, and I'm not falling for it. Beta males rule! Cheers! That's given me a lot of confidence! __________________ Zombie Sheep Gentleman. Scholar. Thread-Killer. If I just killed your thread... I'M SORRY!

10-11-2009, 11:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Zombie Sheep Status: Ovine Undead Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 292	LOL! I typed in s-n-i-g-g-e-r and it starred out the last six letters... I wonder why that was... __________________ Zombie Sheep Gentleman. Scholar. Thread-Killer. If I just killed your thread... I'M SORRY!

10-12-2009, 08:37 AM	#8 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 217	Good for you for trying. And as good as giving a speech on quantum mechanics naked in front of an audience of thousands sounds...It'd probably be better to go on a date. __________________ Will you say hello to my ma? Will you pay a visit to her? She was an artist just as you were I'd have introduced you to her She would take me out on Sundays We'd go laughing through the garbage She repaired legs like a doctor On the kitchen chairs we sat on She was unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were... -Jane's Addiction (Then She Did...)

10-12-2009, 11:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,609	Good luck ZS! __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

10-11-2009, 09:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
scrotobaggins Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 9	Right on mate, that's the spirit I like to see! And it's not lame at all, man - online dating is pretty common nowadays. No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed at all. I wish you luck with it, and I wanna' hear success stories! And who knows, you might even meet a woman who enjoys listening to someone talk about quantum mechanics naked... there's a sexual fantasy for everything :P

10-11-2009, 10:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
scrotobaggins Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 9	Man, don't fall into that mumbo jumbo. It is true that a lot of women like alpha male types, but there's also a lot of women who don't. Most alpha male types are narcissistic douchebags anyway - those are the kind of cocky guys that a lot of women hate. Yes, they have the confidence that a lot of us wish we had, but that's something that we can work on. You don't have to turn into a douchebag to have confidence! I'd be lying if I said I didn't give those kinds of books a looksee too, but that's not where you should be looking for advice - it's not legit (in my opinion). It's such an easy way to make money - I mean, come on, what guy doesn't want to meet more women? It's a genius strategy on the authors' part, and a LOT of guys DO buy those kinds of books. But, I personally think it's a load of crap. But man, a lot of women move on to dating sites because they want to meet a nice guy. A lot of them are sick of the bar scene and meeting douchewads who only want them for sex. You'll definitely see a lot of women users with headlines like "where are all the good guys at?", that kind of thing. Deep down inside, I think most women want guys like us. I mean, who doesn't want to meet a nice person? It seems silly to want to be with someone who's a turd burglar. We're just afraid to be ourselves and let loose, so people just think we're boring. Well we're not! And I don't think there's such a thing as 'too nice'. Being nice is an amazing trait to have, and eventually, a lot of women are going realize that it's guys like us that they want. So don't give in to all that crap. I believe in you!

10-12-2009, 07:53 AM	#7 (permalink)
scrotobaggins Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 9	Right on mate, that's what I like to hear! And don't give up! It's so easy to feel discouraged and walk away, but you gotta' be patient. Perseverance shows that you know what you want and that you aren't afraid to go for it, regardless of the obstacles - women definitely like that. So keep at it man! Good luck mate!

10-12-2009, 11:23 AM	#11 (permalink)
fhoadv Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 30	Go get them Zombie Sheep! Good luck.

10-12-2009, 12:18 PM	#12 (permalink)
Zombie Sheep Status: Ovine Undead Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 292	Wow! Thanks for being so nice! You really are all friendly, kind, tolerant and thoughtful people! Don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise! My mate came round this afternoon, but he left early... So I still have time to get round my folks and get that picture taken... Gotta hurry tho, so I'll be off asap. Anyway, cheers again! __________________ Zombie Sheep Gentleman. Scholar. Thread-Killer. If I just killed your thread... I'M SORRY!

10-12-2009, 02:54 PM	#13 (permalink)
jellybelly Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Gender: Female Posts: 270	Good luck! I joined a dating site recently but haven't talked to anyone on it as I'm don't want to make the leap of actually being a paid member and being able to contact people. Though someone sent me a message on it and I can't read it without paying. Boo. Again, good luck!

10-12-2009, 04:45 PM	#15 (permalink)
Zombie Sheep Status: Ovine Undead Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 292	jellybelly - Cheers! Umm... If there's actually a guy trying to meet you - shouldn't you shell out? He might be a really nice feller! Worth a fiver or whatever it is for a month right? Anyway, thanks a lot for your kind words... Like I say, this isn't exactly something I'm gonna find easy, so fair play to you and everybody else for being so encouraging! KyleThomas - I'll need it! Got my photos now... Signing up 2moro - OMG! __________________ Zombie Sheep Gentleman. Scholar. Thread-Killer. If I just killed your thread... I'M SORRY!

10-12-2009, 06:35 PM	#16 (permalink)
meyaj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Markham, Ontario Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 571	I've considered doing this but am terrified of what I consider to be the inevitable collapse when she finds out I don't have a -single- friend. __________________ Medications I've tried: escitalopram, bupropion, venlafaxine, sertraline, nortriptyline, hydroxyzine, lorazepam, diazepam, temazepam, clonazepam, zopiclone, mirtazapine, trazodone, quetiapine, olanzapine, paliperidone Currently taking: 2mg nortriptyline hs(tapering), 7.5mg-15mg zopiclone hs, 2mg clonazepam prn

10-12-2009, 06:44 PM	#17 (permalink)
bowlingpins Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 557	hey, I have read some of your posts. You seem like a friendly person. Good luck with the dating.

10-12-2009, 09:47 PM	#18 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Good luck, we're all rooting for you. Just remember that you have nothing to lose.

10-13-2009, 11:46 AM	#20 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 488	Good luck Zombie Sheep. A person with that username has got to be interesting