Social Anxiety Support

jook · 01-10-2010, 07:15 AM

Since so many of us are not working and at home during the day I thought of starting this thread to help with lack of motivation/depression cycle.

Post here what it is you plan to accomplish today. It doesn't matter how small. Please, no whining about not having anything to do. That's a different forum. Let's try to keep it positive for everybody else.

Don't worry about whether you'll actually do what you say you plan to do. Just post the intention. Even if you post the same intention everyday for a week, that's OK. Nobody's judging. Then let everybody know how things went and maybe post an "atta boy" to someone else. OK? All right, let's go!

jook · 01-10-2010, 07:22 AM

OK, I'll start.

Today I plan to:

*wash bed linen
*wash the Yorky
*complete application for CNA job
*pay phone bill

I already ordered a book on line this morning: The Easy way to Stop Smoking by Alan Carr. I urge anybody who wants to stop to take a look at it.

BTW concerning this thread, no need to post everything you plan to do, just those things you've set as goals for the day.

No-Sturm-und-Drang · 01-10-2010, 07:23 AM

This is a good idea for a thread. I intent on going to work this morning and not having any bad thoughts, just being fairly happy and fairly talkative with my co-workers.

jook · 01-10-2010, 08:33 AM

No-Sturm starting out with an intent to have a good day is the way to
go!

Hope you are able to keep those automatic negative thoughts at bay.

Every success any of us have, especially at work, is an inspiration and success for us all!

The Strong Silent Type · 01-10-2010, 08:39 AM

I have one goal for tomorrow (which is in 7 hours) to wake up fully rested. Going to the beach for a photo shoot... don't want to be dead tired during it. Which I will likely be, insomnia is a B****

jook · 01-10-2010, 08:40 AM

Sounds exciting! No plans for today?

The Strong Silent Type · 01-10-2010, 08:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jook

Sounds exciting! No goals for today?

to sleep

arrow77 · 01-10-2010, 09:50 AM

study
exercise
don't think too much
smile

jook · 01-10-2010, 03:30 PM

I hope everybody got through their plans today. Even if you didn't accomplish everything, congratulations for what you did.

If you didn't do any, at least you thought about it. Maybe next time you'll get there. I got two out of the four things I set out to do today done.. I've still got to fill out the job app and pay my cell phone bill.

One intention I have everyday is to go out more. Maybe I'll go to a coffee shot and do the app.

Well, tomorrow's another day!

jook · 01-11-2010, 07:05 AM

Good Morning!

I did get to the coffee shop last night. Began working on my job application with a hot cup of chai (yum!)

Still got some reference stuff to fill in then I'm done. OK, so today I woke up feeling a little stuck in the mud

but am determined to forge ahead!

Today I plan to:
*finish job application
*drop job application off
*review at least three writers on the writing site I'm on
*go to EFT (tapping) session
*Maybe have a friend over later

So, what are YOU gonna do today?

kiwismile · 01-11-2010, 10:07 AM

-Shower before Noon.
-Do laundry (we share a laundry room with four other apartments, so sometimes I'll put it off because I'm worried I'll run into one of the neighbors).
-Take a walk to anywhere, maybe the rose garden.
-Sketch something.

jook · 01-11-2010, 06:01 PM

Hi Kiwi!

how'd it go today? I hope all went well and you were able to follow through with the tasks you set for yourself.

I finished my job application which turned out to be quite a feat as it included assessments tests also that I wasn't aware of. The tests weren't hard just time consuming.

I also attended my EFT tapping session. For anyone interested this is a type of therapy where you tap on meridian points while making affirmations concerning your current feelings like depression or anxiety:

i.e. "Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."

(change meridian point, then)

"Even though this anxiety is frustrating and pisses me off, I deeply and completely accept myself"

You do this repeatedly changing statements and meridian points.

I don't know how or why it works but it does help cause a shift in emotional energy.

I thought I would have a friend over for dinner but she called and invited me out instead. A had a couple of marguerita's at dinner that went straight to my head!

Overall, I feel pretty good about the way the day panned out.

Well, tomorrow's another day!
seeya round

kiwismile · 01-11-2010, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kiwismile

-Shower before Noon.
-Do laundry (we share a laundry room with four other apartments, so sometimes I'll put it off because I'm worried I'll run into one of the neighbors).
-Take a walk to anywhere, maybe the rose garden.
-Sketch something.

I didn't make it outside today. ): Tomorrow I'm going with my grandmother to visit my sister though, so at least that'll get me out of the house.

jook · 01-11-2010, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kiwismile

I didn't make it outside today. ): Tomorrow I'm going with my grandmother to visit my sister though, so at least that'll get me out of the house.

Oh well... the world won't end 'cuz you didn't get your laundry done today, now will it?

Sounds like you're looking forward to visiting with your grandmother and sister tomorrow. I know personally that getting out can be difficult sometime. If you're not working, or have some other reason to have to go out, it can get comfortable isolating and avoiding. Good for you that you have an outing planned tomorrow.

Have fun!

jook · 01-12-2010, 07:49 AM

Hi all!

I just want to say that posting my daily intentions here has really helped me to get out of the slump and stay focused. It's like once I post it here I've made a public committment and I feel more obligated, AND more motivated to follow through.

So here's what I intend to do to day:

*Visit my son to help him with some job hunting stuff
*Spend a couple of hours volunteering at Hospice (went 1st time last week)
*Get that darned application turned in
*Have the friend that took me out yesterday over for dinner this evening.

This is a biggy:

***I really need to review some writing on my writing site because I owe some reviews to people who've reviewed my work.

***note: I just joined a group of people online who are serious about getting published. They're excellent writer's and reviewers. I'm feeling like I'm out of my league and like my review's will sound so stupid and simple compared to theirs. I think it's my SA kicking in with the automatic neg. thoughts telling me, "

"What you have to say will sound stupid"
"Your thoughts are not as valuable as what these other people have to say"
"Your comments are going to make you look ________________(fill in the blank with almost anything negative and unapproving)

I could really use some support by way of any advice, comments, suggestions, anyone has to help me over this hump and get to reviewing!
thanks guys.

dreamj · 01-12-2010, 11:08 AM

^ I'm in the same boat too, as I've got to apply for design and illustration opportunities. I've just moved here to Cali., and I'm trying to get myself motivated to get my resume finished, as well as my portfolio and applying for jobs. Knowing the particular state of talent around my area, I'm apprehensive and don't believe in myself right now. I wish I could help with advice, because I'm trying to figure things out myself. But I know what you're going through!

To start my day, I've got to:
- finalize my resume
- send it out to the employers I've contacted
- find additional placement companies that I can apply to
- update my personal portfolio website
- drive around and run errands to get things done and know the area/people better
- try to find an SA support group in my city

I'm feeling nervous, but I'm thinking what's the worse an employer can do, say I'm not good enough? If so, I hope they give me input for improvement.

Btw. this was a great thread to post, thanks for putting it up!

No-Sturm-und-Drang · 01-12-2010, 01:28 PM

haha thanks jook

jook · 01-12-2010, 02:58 PM

Hi Dreamj:

glad to see you posting here. I'd love to hear how far you got with your 1/12 plans. How exciting to be starting out in a new place with so many possibilities for an interesting career. I'm always impressed by anybody with a portfolio.

Whoo hoo!

Be sure and keep us posted on how things are going. You're not alone out there in Cali. You've got your friends here to cheer you on!

Kiwi: how was your day with gramps and your sister? I dare not ask about the laundry,

.

Well, as for me today
-I did visit my son and help him with job stuff as I intended

-volunteered at Hospice for an hour

-waiting for my friend to show up for dinner

-still didn't turn in that damn application!

-didn't get any writing reviews done.

But it's all good cuz'...
Tomorrow's another day!

jook · 01-13-2010, 06:38 AM

I 've been up a couple of hours now, just doing some reading. My friend came over and made a scrumptous dinner last night of shrimp linguini, salad and garlic bread.

She forgot the vodka (her favorite) and since I couldn't interest her in the Merlot I had, she had iced herbal tea and I had some orange stuff my son left at my house

So, let's see...

Today, I'm feeling a little helterskelter. Not sure what I should do. My laptop went black so I may have to take it to a shop. I read on line that I may be able to reset the bios. if anybody knows how to do this please send me a PM explaning so I can save myself the money.

I guess what I MUST do today is drop off that damn application and put that saga to rest.

Would also be good if I got a couple of writing reviews done.

Other than that I think I'll free float today.

So how about YOU? C'mon don't be shy

or be shy and do it anyway!

dreamj · 01-13-2010, 12:03 PM

Hey thanks for the encouragement jook. Send in that application!

It's a small step to achieving a bigger goal, and hopefully better things for you!

For me I got most of my tasks done yesterday. I have my "bare bones" basic resume done, and I'm ready to send it through e-mail to atleast one employer I promised to submit to. I might as well try at least this one today and test the waters to see if my resume floats.

Today I've got to:

- Call the DMV and see the steps to get a new state lisence.
- Organize my stuff b/c the house is a mess.
- Clean my car out so I can look presentable for a family party on Saturday (can I call sick?)

- Still find an SA group here
- Seriously get all the resume and online portfolio stuff polished
- Survey and scout out the bigger employment opportunities

01-10-2010, 07:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Start Your Day Here! Since so many of us are not working and at home during the day I thought of starting this thread to help with lack of motivation/depression cycle. Post here what it is you plan to accomplish today. It doesn't matter how small. Please, no whining about not having anything to do. That's a different forum. Let's try to keep it positive for everybody else. Don't worry about whether you'll actually do what you say you plan to do. Just post the intention. Even if you post the same intention everyday for a week, that's OK. Nobody's judging. Then let everybody know how things went and maybe post an "atta boy" to someone else. OK? All right, let's go!

01-10-2010, 07:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
No-Sturm-und-Drang Status: making awesome awesomer Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Oregon Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 586	This is a good idea for a thread. I intent on going to work this morning and not having any bad thoughts, just being fairly happy and fairly talkative with my co-workers. __________________ They say its the quiet ones that really want to scream

01-10-2010, 08:33 AM	#4 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Go No-Sturm! No-Sturm starting out with an intent to have a good day is the way to go! Hope you are able to keep those automatic negative thoughts at bay. Every success any of us have, especially at work, is an inspiration and success for us all!

01-11-2010, 10:07 AM	#11 (permalink)
kiwismile Status: still awake Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 155	-Shower before Noon. -Do laundry (we share a laundry room with four other apartments, so sometimes I'll put it off because I'm worried I'll run into one of the neighbors). -Take a walk to anywhere, maybe the rose garden. -Sketch something. __________________ "Could you wave goodbye to sun? The sea the stars the waves the tide? The wails inside that life has died. But all you need is a kiss of life " http://www.formspring.me/kiwismile

01-12-2010, 11:08 AM	#16 (permalink)
dreamj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Below Canada but above Mexico! Gender: Male Posts: 161	^ I'm in the same boat too, as I've got to apply for design and illustration opportunities. I've just moved here to Cali., and I'm trying to get myself motivated to get my resume finished, as well as my portfolio and applying for jobs. Knowing the particular state of talent around my area, I'm apprehensive and don't believe in myself right now. I wish I could help with advice, because I'm trying to figure things out myself. But I know what you're going through! To start my day, I've got to: - finalize my resume - send it out to the employers I've contacted - find additional placement companies that I can apply to - update my personal portfolio website - drive around and run errands to get things done and know the area/people better - try to find an SA support group in my city I'm feeling nervous, but I'm thinking what's the worse an employer can do, say I'm not good enough? If so, I hope they give me input for improvement. Btw. this was a great thread to post, thanks for putting it up! __________________ Life is about solutions.

01-10-2010, 07:22 AM	#2 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	OK, I'll start. Today I plan to: wash bed linen wash the Yorky complete application for CNA job pay phone bill I already ordered a book on line this morning: The Easy way to Stop Smoking by Alan Carr. I urge anybody who wants to stop to take a look at it. BTW concerning this thread, no need to post everything you plan to do, just those things you've set as goals for the day.

01-10-2010, 08:39 AM	#5 (permalink)
The Strong Silent Type Status: Charlotte SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Charlotte, NC Gender: Male Age: 35 Posts: 273	I have one goal for tomorrow (which is in 7 hours) to wake up fully rested. Going to the beach for a photo shoot... don't want to be dead tired during it. Which I will likely be, insomnia is a B****

01-10-2010, 08:40 AM	#6 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Sounds exciting! No plans for today?

01-10-2010, 09:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
arrow77 Status: Null Join Date: Nov 2007 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 92	study exercise don't think too much smile

01-10-2010, 03:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	I hope everybody got through their plans today. Even if you didn't accomplish everything, congratulations for what you did. If you didn't do any, at least you thought about it. Maybe next time you'll get there. I got two out of the four things I set out to do today done.. I've still got to fill out the job app and pay my cell phone bill. One intention I have everyday is to go out more. Maybe I'll go to a coffee shot and do the app. Well, tomorrow's another day!

01-11-2010, 07:05 AM	#10 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Good Morning! I did get to the coffee shop last night. Began working on my job application with a hot cup of chai (yum!) Still got some reference stuff to fill in then I'm done. OK, so today I woke up feeling a little stuck in the mud but am determined to forge ahead! Today I plan to: finish job application drop job application off review at least three writers on the writing site I'm on go to EFT (tapping) session *Maybe have a friend over later So, what are YOU gonna do today?

01-11-2010, 06:01 PM	#12 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Hi Kiwi! how'd it go today? I hope all went well and you were able to follow through with the tasks you set for yourself. I finished my job application which turned out to be quite a feat as it included assessments tests also that I wasn't aware of. The tests weren't hard just time consuming. I also attended my EFT tapping session. For anyone interested this is a type of therapy where you tap on meridian points while making affirmations concerning your current feelings like depression or anxiety: i.e. "Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself." (change meridian point, then) "Even though this anxiety is frustrating and pisses me off, I deeply and completely accept myself" You do this repeatedly changing statements and meridian points. I don't know how or why it works but it does help cause a shift in emotional energy. I thought I would have a friend over for dinner but she called and invited me out instead. A had a couple of marguerita's at dinner that went straight to my head! Overall, I feel pretty good about the way the day panned out. Well, tomorrow's another day! seeya round

01-12-2010, 07:49 AM	#15 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Hi all! I just want to say that posting my daily intentions here has really helped me to get out of the slump and stay focused. It's like once I post it here I've made a public committment and I feel more obligated, AND more motivated to follow through. So here's what I intend to do to day: Visit my son to help him with some job hunting stuff Spend a couple of hours volunteering at Hospice (went 1st time last week) Get that darned application turned in Have the friend that took me out yesterday over for dinner this evening. This is a biggy: *****I really need to review some writing on my writing site because I owe some reviews to people who've reviewed my work. *****note: I just joined a group of people online who are serious about getting published. They're excellent writer's and reviewers. I'm feeling like I'm out of my league and like my review's will sound so stupid and simple compared to theirs. I think it's my SA kicking in with the automatic neg. thoughts telling me, " "What you have to say will sound stupid" "Your thoughts are not as valuable as what these other people have to say" "Your comments are going to make you look ________________(fill in the blank with almost anything negative and unapproving) I could really use some support by way of any advice, comments, suggestions, anyone has to help me over this hump and get to reviewing! thanks guys.

01-12-2010, 01:28 PM	#17 (permalink)
No-Sturm-und-Drang Status: making awesome awesomer Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Oregon Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 586	haha thanks jook __________________ They say its the quiet ones that really want to scream

01-12-2010, 02:58 PM	#18 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	Hi Dreamj: glad to see you posting here. I'd love to hear how far you got with your 1/12 plans. How exciting to be starting out in a new place with so many possibilities for an interesting career. I'm always impressed by anybody with a portfolio. Whoo hoo! Be sure and keep us posted on how things are going. You're not alone out there in Cali. You've got your friends here to cheer you on! Kiwi: how was your day with gramps and your sister? I dare not ask about the laundry, . Well, as for me today -I did visit my son and help him with job stuff as I intended -volunteered at Hospice for an hour -waiting for my friend to show up for dinner -still didn't turn in that damn application! -didn't get any writing reviews done. But it's all good cuz'... Tomorrow's another day!

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01-13-2010, 06:38 AM	#19 (permalink)
jook Status: Just me being me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 567	I 've been up a couple of hours now, just doing some reading. My friend came over and made a scrumptous dinner last night of shrimp linguini, salad and garlic bread. She forgot the vodka (her favorite) and since I couldn't interest her in the Merlot I had, she had iced herbal tea and I had some orange stuff my son left at my house So, let's see... Today, I'm feeling a little helterskelter. Not sure what I should do. My laptop went black so I may have to take it to a shop. I read on line that I may be able to reset the bios. if anybody knows how to do this please send me a PM explaning so I can save myself the money. I guess what I MUST do today is drop off that damn application and put that saga to rest. Would also be good if I got a couple of writing reviews done. Other than that I think I'll free float today. So how about YOU? C'mon don't be shy or be shy and do it anyway!

01-13-2010, 12:03 PM	#20 (permalink)
dreamj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Below Canada but above Mexico! Gender: Male Posts: 161	Hey thanks for the encouragement jook. Send in that application! It's a small step to achieving a bigger goal, and hopefully better things for you! For me I got most of my tasks done yesterday. I have my "bare bones" basic resume done, and I'm ready to send it through e-mail to atleast one employer I promised to submit to. I might as well try at least this one today and test the waters to see if my resume floats. Today I've got to: - Call the DMV and see the steps to get a new state lisence. - Organize my stuff b/c the house is a mess. - Clean my car out so I can look presentable for a family party on Saturday (can I call sick?) - Still find an SA group here - Seriously get all the resume and online portfolio stuff polished - Survey and scout out the bigger employment opportunities __________________ Life is about solutions.