Social Anxiety Support

slylikeafox · 06-27-2009, 11:50 AM

Share your weekly goals! Try to include updates

My goal for next week is to call a local Toastmasters chapter. I'm terrified of public speaking and I really need to overcome this. There is a meeting Friday, but I'm not sure if I'll be joining yet.

Drew · 06-27-2009, 02:58 PM

That's a great first goal for Toastmasters. One step at a time!

My goal now week is to exercise 5 out of seven days of the week. I feel so much better and less anxious when I exercise.

slylikeafox · 06-28-2009, 12:18 AM

Thanks Drew, good luck with the exercising goal! What kind of exercise do you usually do? I've been trying to walk/hike more lately.

slylikeafox · 07-01-2009, 10:25 AM

Here's an update on my goal for this week. I didn't call, because none of the local Toastmasters seem to fit my schedule. There is one in the next city over that would work for the summer, but It would be iffy during the fall semester. I'm feeling relieved and disappointed at the same time. I'll have to think of something new to challenge myself.

slylikeafox · 07-04-2009, 08:53 AM

My goal for next week is to walk someplace each day that has people. Secluded walking trails will not count. I will also smile around people at least once each day.

Come on, share your goal(s) for the week

Setting goals is a great way to fight your SA

shygirl14 · 07-04-2009, 02:15 PM

My goals for this week is to walk everyday. No specific amount of time or miles, I live near the lake there are plenty of places to walk (inlcuding around the neighborhood).
I know walking is a great excerise and its a way to help control anxiety.
I actually got out today and walked around the lake. I stoped and took pics of the lake and people water skiing.

So yeah this week I want to walk like this everyday, I even marked it on the calendar, lol

I may go back after dinner and see if I can get pics of the lake at night espically tonight I know people will be shooting off fireworks.

okay I think I said more than I should have.

Shy

shygirl14 · 07-04-2009, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by slylikeafox

My goal for next week is to walk someplace each day that has people. Secluded walking trails will not count. I will also smile around people at least once each day.

Come on, share your goal(s) for the week

Setting goals is a great way to fight your SA

I will be rooting for you,

shygirl14 · 07-04-2009, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

That's a great first goal for Toastmasters. One step at a time!

My goal now week is to exercise 5 out of seven days of the week. I feel so much better and less anxious when I exercise.

What kind of exercise, I will be rooting for you

slylikeafox · 07-04-2009, 10:30 PM

Thanks, I'll be rooting for you as well shygirl114

That's good that you were able to go out and walk yesterday. Did you end up going back later?

strawberryjulius · 07-04-2009, 11:55 PM

My goals for this week will be to start meditating, exercise and finish writing about school.

veron · 07-05-2009, 06:46 AM

Hmm, I can't really think of a goal to do with SA... right now I'm struggling with lack of motivation more than anything else. Maybe my goal could be to get out of the house more.

shygirl14 · 07-05-2009, 12:39 PM

I went again today, I hope to go back out after dinner today. I ate dinner later than usualy last night, and I didn't go back out.

strawberryjulius · 07-06-2009, 05:32 AM

I did everything I wanted to do today. I feel good.

JS86 · 07-06-2009, 06:34 AM

By the end of the week I desperately need to update my resume, write a cover letter, and send it to a few schools asking for volunteer work. I desperately need to clock up volunteer days and hours as part of my university course by the start of October, otherwise I won't graduate. That is one part of the course the university left to us and I have definitely not been very successful at it. I feel like there has been a lack of help in that area, but I really do need to get a move on because I am scared of being such a high performing and serious student in previous years, yet I could be held back by something so simple.

TaniaN · 07-06-2009, 05:26 PM

My goals for this week are to get out of the house and do something. I'm planning on going to a museum tomorrow and then walking around a bit. I also want to workout at least twice this week, if not then at least go on quite a few walks. My last goal is to come up with something different and exciting for my fiance and I to do this coming weekend.

slylikeafox · 07-06-2009, 11:08 PM

Great goals everyone! TaniaN, have a fun time at the museum! Keep up the great work shygirl114 and strawberryjulius! Veron, My motivation seems to also have gone down. It can be hard to get myself out, but leaving the house definitely seems to lift my spirits. JS86, best of luck on your search for volunteer work.

I've kept up with mine for the first two days of the week. I walked both days. Saw people were already on the trails, but forced myself to go. I attempted to smile around people during both days, but that's an area I really need work on.

strawberryjulius · 07-07-2009, 06:28 AM

I didn't do anything today, my motivation just died.

Oh well, I'll just start again tomorrow!

bowlingpins · 07-08-2009, 05:15 PM

Good idea for a thread.

- give a presentation today.
Done! It was a disorganized mess, but that's ok.

- met my new roommate, he is extremely social. He will be bringing his friends/gf over often. Should be a good way to practice social skills.

- tomorrow (Thursday), meet my cousin from California, go for a 2 hour drive to some place to get dinner and then drive back.

- weekend, 5 hour drive to X to see a childhood friend I haven't seen in 8 years.

EDIT: this week is unusual for me in that I don't usually do so much social stuff

JS86 · 07-10-2009, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by JS86

By the end of the week I desperately need to update my resume, write a cover letter, and send it to a few schools asking for volunteer work. I desperately need to clock up volunteer days and hours as part of my university course by the start of October, otherwise I won't graduate. That is one part of the course the university left to us and I have definitely not been very successful at it. I feel like there has been a lack of help in that area, but I really do need to get a move on because I am scared of being such a high performing and serious student in previous years, yet I could be held back by something so simple.

I did manage to finish my resume and cover letter. I sent it to one school and emailed someone at another school I have worked at before. I wanted to send more, but I do have a good feeling about getting volunteer work at the two places I have enquired about volunteer positions. I will perhaps send out another letter tomorrow just in case, then wait Monday and Tuesday for replies before seeing if I need to send more letters.

mind_games · 07-11-2009, 08:33 AM

Goals for this week:
1. Be on time for work. Difficulty: Hmm not too hard on paper, just gotta really be on to it with my sleep time.

2.i) Stay away from porn sites,

2.ii) Stay away from that other site,

2.iii) Stay away from facebook (unless facebook girl inititates contact...which I doubt

)

(These are serious goals btw. Goal #2 has become a problem because once I get home from work I don't know what to do with myself from 5pm till bedtime and it can drive me nuts sometimes.)

06-27-2009, 11:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Share your weekly goals! Share your weekly goals! Try to include updates My goal for next week is to call a local Toastmasters chapter. I'm terrified of public speaking and I really need to overcome this. There is a meeting Friday, but I'm not sure if I'll be joining yet. __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

06-28-2009, 12:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Thanks Drew, good luck with the exercising goal! What kind of exercise do you usually do? I've been trying to walk/hike more lately. __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-01-2009, 10:25 AM	#4 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Update: Toastmasters Here's an update on my goal for this week. I didn't call, because none of the local Toastmasters seem to fit my schedule. There is one in the next city over that would work for the summer, but It would be iffy during the fall semester. I'm feeling relieved and disappointed at the same time. I'll have to think of something new to challenge myself. __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-04-2009, 08:53 AM	#5 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	New goal for next week My goal for next week is to walk someplace each day that has people. Secluded walking trails will not count. I will also smile around people at least once each day. Come on, share your goal(s) for the week Setting goals is a great way to fight your SA __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-04-2009, 02:15 PM	#6 (permalink)
shygirl14 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 143	walking everyday My goals for this week is to walk everyday. No specific amount of time or miles, I live near the lake there are plenty of places to walk (inlcuding around the neighborhood). I know walking is a great excerise and its a way to help control anxiety. I actually got out today and walked around the lake. I stoped and took pics of the lake and people water skiing. So yeah this week I want to walk like this everyday, I even marked it on the calendar, lol I may go back after dinner and see if I can get pics of the lake at night espically tonight I know people will be shooting off fireworks. okay I think I said more than I should have. Shy

06-27-2009, 02:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Drew Status: Administrator Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Gender: Male Posts: 1,381	That's a great first goal for Toastmasters. One step at a time! My goal now week is to exercise 5 out of seven days of the week. I feel so much better and less anxious when I exercise.

07-04-2009, 10:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Thanks, I'll be rooting for you as well shygirl114 That's good that you were able to go out and walk yesterday. Did you end up going back later? __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-04-2009, 11:55 PM	#10 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,564	My goals for this week will be to start meditating, exercise and finish writing about school.

07-05-2009, 06:46 AM	#11 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 488	Hmm, I can't really think of a goal to do with SA... right now I'm struggling with lack of motivation more than anything else. Maybe my goal could be to get out of the house more.

07-05-2009, 12:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
shygirl14 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 143	I went again today, I hope to go back out after dinner today. I ate dinner later than usualy last night, and I didn't go back out.

07-06-2009, 05:32 AM	#13 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,564	I did everything I wanted to do today. I feel good.

07-06-2009, 06:34 AM	#14 (permalink)
JS86 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 310	By the end of the week I desperately need to update my resume, write a cover letter, and send it to a few schools asking for volunteer work. I desperately need to clock up volunteer days and hours as part of my university course by the start of October, otherwise I won't graduate. That is one part of the course the university left to us and I have definitely not been very successful at it. I feel like there has been a lack of help in that area, but I really do need to get a move on because I am scared of being such a high performing and serious student in previous years, yet I could be held back by something so simple.

07-06-2009, 05:26 PM	#15 (permalink)
TaniaN Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: NYC Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 234	My goals for this week are to get out of the house and do something. I'm planning on going to a museum tomorrow and then walking around a bit. I also want to workout at least twice this week, if not then at least go on quite a few walks. My last goal is to come up with something different and exciting for my fiance and I to do this coming weekend.

07-06-2009, 11:08 PM	#16 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Great goals everyone! TaniaN, have a fun time at the museum! Keep up the great work shygirl114 and strawberryjulius! Veron, My motivation seems to also have gone down. It can be hard to get myself out, but leaving the house definitely seems to lift my spirits. JS86, best of luck on your search for volunteer work. I've kept up with mine for the first two days of the week. I walked both days. Saw people were already on the trails, but forced myself to go. I attempted to smile around people during both days, but that's an area I really need work on. __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-07-2009, 06:28 AM	#17 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,564	I didn't do anything today, my motivation just died. Oh well, I'll just start again tomorrow!

07-08-2009, 05:15 PM	#18 (permalink)
bowlingpins Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 557	Good idea for a thread. - give a presentation today. Done! It was a disorganized mess, but that's ok. - met my new roommate, he is extremely social. He will be bringing his friends/gf over often. Should be a good way to practice social skills. - tomorrow (Thursday), meet my cousin from California, go for a 2 hour drive to some place to get dinner and then drive back. - weekend, 5 hour drive to X to see a childhood friend I haven't seen in 8 years. EDIT: this week is unusual for me in that I don't usually do so much social stuff

07-11-2009, 08:33 AM	#20 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,563	Goals for this week: 1. Be on time for work. Difficulty: Hmm not too hard on paper, just gotta really be on to it with my sleep time. 2.i) Stay away from porn sites, 2.ii) Stay away from that other site, 2.iii) Stay away from facebook (unless facebook girl inititates contact...which I doubt ) (These are serious goals btw. Goal #2 has become a problem because once I get home from work I don't know what to do with myself from 5pm till bedtime and it can drive me nuts sometimes.) __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"