My great battle for this summer!!! CCHHHAARRGEE!!!

[bwidger85]

Yeah, I need to work on this goal myself. GL

[roverred]

Great job Aj. You're always improving.

You say you feel you are forcing yourself to be social. So do you feel like you are being yourself or forcing yourself to be the person you want to be? Also when you have anxiety, do you use positive thinking to counter thought or channel the energy into doing something kind of out there. Just curious to see what can work.

Keep it up man.

[hihoum]

i advice you to do exposure technque....so you rate the anxiety level of each situation, then you'll start from least to most difficult situation....oce you can reduce anxiety in the first situation by 50%, you can pass to next action...

[_AJ_]

Originally Posted by roverred

Great job Aj. You're always improving.

You say you feel you are forcing yourself to be social. So do you feel like you are being yourself or forcing yourself to be the person you want to be? Also when you have anxiety, do you use positive thinking to counter thought or channel the energy into doing something kind of out there. Just curious to see what can work.

Keep it up man.

i feel like im forcing myself and i dont really get anxiety anymore
I just feel very bored trying to socialize
positive thinking feels fake
negativity feels real

but at least all this **** got rid of the anxiety, eh

[_AJ_]

my latest victory
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...d-video-70628/

yaaaa!

[bwidger85]

Yeah, I also find myself pretty bored in social situations. I've been reading a lot on this and one source suggests it may be our level of interest in the other person(s) in general. So I'm trying to discover what interests me about most people. I think sometimes we need to create a connection before we can have an interest. We need to let go of prejudices w/e those might be and look at what is fascinating about that person. Sometimes we aren't interested not because the person isn't interested but because we have cut them off for some reason. Well, that's my take at it anyways, but I still need to work on this myself. People were much more exciting when I was younger, but I’m not sure if that was because I had confidence or I was generally interested in those people or a combination of both, but I could literally have an exciting conversation with anyone of any age. Most of connecting with people has to do with how you make them feel; a connection with you.

[_AJ_]

Originally Posted by bwidger85

Yeah, I also find myself pretty bored in social situations. I've been reading a lot on this and one source suggests it may be our level of interest in the other person(s) in general. So I'm trying to discover what interests me about most people. I think sometimes we need to create a connection before we can have an interest. We need to let go of prejudices w/e those might be and look at what is fascinating about that person. Sometimes we aren't interested not because the person isn't interested but because we have cut them off for some reason. Well, that's my take at it anyways, but I still need to work on this myself. People were much more exciting when I was younger, but I’m not sure if that was because I had confidence or I was generally interested in those people or a combination of both, but I could literally have an exciting conversation with anyone of any age. Most of connecting with people has to do with how you make them feel; a connection with you.

holy crap, did you read my mind today! i was thinking this exact thing! its all about being genuinely interested and them returning it. I just find myself faking interest and i dont know why. I think its cause i feel like it doesnt matter anyway, they dont wanna get to know me

[_AJ_]

Originally Posted by hihoum

i advice you to do exposure technque....so you rate the anxiety level of each situation, then you'll start from least to most difficult situation....oce you can reduce anxiety in the first situation by 50%, you can pass to next action...

yes, im gona do this now

no more jumping to the heavy weights

[Firecracker73]

Good luck brother! just keep this in mind- face your fears one at a time or you could have more added on top of the others.

[_AJ_]

ok, summer is pretty much over

so that concludes that

a few photos from some of my outings: http://s73.photobucket.com/albums/i228/rfdfgdfgdfssgd/


im just gona do stuff i enjoy now
no more testing my might

[bwidger85]

Yeah, I'm in the same transition. I don't really feel like pushing myself too hard right now but rather enjoy myself and all the small things.

I've read somewhere else that you feel like you understand your very capable in social situations now. It's great to hear of your trials providing you with this new found confidence. I also had to discover this capability through the same manner. It’s always inspirational to hear of such success and I hope you continue to allow yourself to grow and learn more.

You've accomplished a lot! You should be very proud of yourself

[DanCilley]

It is very good to see stuff like this...evidence of someone overcoming SA. Seeing the pictures makes me happy and very excited for you, AJ. I have been putting myself out there, too, lately. I started broadcasting myself on Blogtv.com. I did the show for 33 days straight, but then my throat has been sore due to too much talking, so I haven't done the show for the past few days. I'll probably do it only a few nights per week, and fewer hours each night.