Social Anxiety Support

far310 · 09-15-2009, 08:21 PM

This is similar to the '100 exposure exercises' thread but geared for me personally, I plan to do 2 different exposure exercises per day, everyday.

These are geared to be social exercises so I will take a few ideas from Mountain5's thread.

Tomorrow's goals(feel free to add to the list for suggestions)
-While biking to school, look bikers going in the opposite direction in the eye and say "Good Morning" with a smile.
-If at a stoplight and their are already bikers there strike up small talk with them.

These are two things that I always felt like doing, sort of on the tip of my tongue but something was holding me back.

thoughts, additions, criticisms are all welcome!

Progress:
1.said hello to bikers/joggers on bike path.(sept 16)
2. Made small talk with a new friend at a stoplight, went OK 5/10(sept 16)
3. Small talk with new friends/people before chem test, went great 8/10(sept 17)
4.and after chem test with an old friend, went very well, 10/10(sept 17)
5. House party with friends, met 2 people in my classes 7/10(sept 1

6. Started up small talk with someone that had the same phone I just bought online(sept 1

7. Lost my voice at the home foot ball game, great support, some criticism 7/10 (sept 19)
8. Toga party, met the hosts..felt anti-social toward the end of the night though 4/10 (sept 19)
9. Watched football game, asked stupid questions about it, wasn't burned 6/10 (sept 20)
10. went to visit my friend in the hospital, was the leader/card holder talking to hospital staff 4/10(sept 20)

strawberryjulius · 09-16-2009, 04:08 AM

Good luck!

Sorry, I don't have any other thoughts lol.

jellybelly · 09-16-2009, 11:24 AM

Hope you managed to achieve those goals! Good luck for your other goals

far310 · 09-21-2009, 02:25 PM

Went really well said hello to everyone going the other way..most just gave a little head nod, a few people didn't do anything.

At the stoplight a new friend of mine came up and we chatted a bit..it went alright, but I did get invited to his party Friday night.friends didn't want to end up going though, it was kind of far away.

As for the other days Thursday I made some small talk that went very well right before a big chem test.

Friday was alright, went out and saw 2 people in my class at parties, which is pretty surprising considering the size of my university 25K+ people..didn't talk to them much, but now I know them better for when I see them next...went to another party, my room mate helped me out when I started following him around again..said "you know me, go mingle with people you don't know!" I did alright with that, talked with someone who had the same phone I just ordered online about it..went ok.

Saturday was great, went to the home football game..my room mate gave me a goal which was to yell and scream at the game so I would lose my voice by night time..I succeeded and a few people introduced themselves to me even! I guess I made an impression 0.o but of course it was not without criticisms a few people in front of my talked with someone else and pointed to me..got kinda anti-social after that..but we were in the student section, it wasn't the family section or anything like that.

That night we had a bunch of people, about 4 cars worth, 15 or so people go to a toga party..it was alright, I met the owners of the house..it was kind of lame because it turned out their were only a few people with togas on and it felt out of place..also the party was too large..it got to that point where you couldn't really follow a conversation with someone because it was too loud or too many people introducing themselves then moving onto other people etc

Sunday was a lazy day, I just watched foot ball with my friends, asked some stupid questions but nobody called me out on it...I never followed football up until very recently.(Anyone else watch the Dallas/Giants game yesterday??)

And thats about it since my last post..I thin I could have been more social at the parties I went to, but overall I am pleased with my progress.

Goals for today
-Go food shopping.
-Ask a random person on how to tell if something is ripe or not in the produce section.

Any thoughts additions for tomorrow??

09-15-2009, 08:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
far310 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 73	14 New Exposure exercises a week This is similar to the '100 exposure exercises' thread but geared for me personally, I plan to do 2 different exposure exercises per day, everyday. These are geared to be social exercises so I will take a few ideas from Mountain5's thread. Tomorrow's goals(feel free to add to the list for suggestions) -While biking to school, look bikers going in the opposite direction in the eye and say "Good Morning" with a smile. -If at a stoplight and their are already bikers there strike up small talk with them. These are two things that I always felt like doing, sort of on the tip of my tongue but something was holding me back. thoughts, additions, criticisms are all welcome! Progress: 1.said hello to bikers/joggers on bike path.(sept 16) 2. Made small talk with a new friend at a stoplight, went OK 5/10(sept 16) 3. Small talk with new friends/people before chem test, went great 8/10(sept 17) 4.and after chem test with an old friend, went very well, 10/10(sept 17) 5. House party with friends, met 2 people in my classes 7/10(sept 1 6. Started up small talk with someone that had the same phone I just bought online(sept 1 7. Lost my voice at the home foot ball game, great support, some criticism 7/10 (sept 19) 8. Toga party, met the hosts..felt anti-social toward the end of the night though 4/10 (sept 19) 9. Watched football game, asked stupid questions about it, wasn't burned 6/10 (sept 20) 10. went to visit my friend in the hospital, was the leader/card holder talking to hospital staff 4/10(sept 20)

09-16-2009, 04:08 AM	#2 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,569	Good luck! Sorry, I don't have any other thoughts lol. __________________ Last.fm▪Anime "And if you've been let down, it might not be the last time. Cheer up, it will hurt much less tomorrow. We're all tired of **ing up and that's not just being sorry. It means brush the dirt off, get up and try again." NaNoWriMo Word Count: 470/50,000**

09-16-2009, 11:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
jellybelly Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Gender: Female Posts: 270	Hope you managed to achieve those goals! Good luck for your other goals

09-21-2009, 02:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
far310 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 73	Went really well said hello to everyone going the other way..most just gave a little head nod, a few people didn't do anything. At the stoplight a new friend of mine came up and we chatted a bit..it went alright, but I did get invited to his party Friday night.friends didn't want to end up going though, it was kind of far away. As for the other days Thursday I made some small talk that went very well right before a big chem test. Friday was alright, went out and saw 2 people in my class at parties, which is pretty surprising considering the size of my university 25K+ people..didn't talk to them much, but now I know them better for when I see them next...went to another party, my room mate helped me out when I started following him around again..said "you know me, go mingle with people you don't know!" I did alright with that, talked with someone who had the same phone I just ordered online about it..went ok. Saturday was great, went to the home football game..my room mate gave me a goal which was to yell and scream at the game so I would lose my voice by night time..I succeeded and a few people introduced themselves to me even! I guess I made an impression 0.o but of course it was not without criticisms a few people in front of my talked with someone else and pointed to me..got kinda anti-social after that..but we were in the student section, it wasn't the family section or anything like that. That night we had a bunch of people, about 4 cars worth, 15 or so people go to a toga party..it was alright, I met the owners of the house..it was kind of lame because it turned out their were only a few people with togas on and it felt out of place..also the party was too large..it got to that point where you couldn't really follow a conversation with someone because it was too loud or too many people introducing themselves then moving onto other people etc Sunday was a lazy day, I just watched foot ball with my friends, asked some stupid questions but nobody called me out on it...I never followed football up until very recently.(Anyone else watch the Dallas/Giants game yesterday??) And thats about it since my last post..I thin I could have been more social at the parties I went to, but overall I am pleased with my progress. Goals for today -Go food shopping. -Ask a random person on how to tell if something is ripe or not in the produce section. Any thoughts additions for tomorrow??