http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ Ask questions, give advice and share your knowledge of how to cope with SA. en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:04:28 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/styles/SAS/misc/rss.jpg http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/wanting-to-hit-hurt-people-76907/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:01:34 GMT of late i have been having urges to hit people who were near me when am on the bus or in a small room with them the urges are really strong so much... of late i have been having urges to hit people who were near me when am on the bus or in a small room with them
the urges are really strong so much so it has made me feel suicidal about it
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i was woudering weather this has to do with social anxiety ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety Emo kitty http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/wanting-to-hit-hurt-people-76907/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/hobbies-or-ways-to-pass-time-76904/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:58:20 GMT Well I dont have many friedns and spend many hours a day alone. i was just wondering what i could do to pass the time. Well I dont have many friedns and spend many hours a day alone. i was just wondering what i could do to pass the time. ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety grrungis http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/hobbies-or-ways-to-pass-time-76904/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/panic-attack-strikes-again-76895/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:25:21 GMT I've never really told anyone about my "problem", but it affects me more than I would like to admit. I am extremely stubborn at showing anyone how I feel or showing any emotions really, usually just pretend its all good all the time. It was really hard for me to join this site, but I think my therapist would be proud haha. Today it would have been really helpful to have someone to talk to since I had to leave class due to a panic attack. It was horribly embarrassing having to leave in the middle of class, and when asked about it I just said I was hung over and had to throw up haha, classy excuse right? Well anyways I just wanted to vent to a group that understands what I'm going through. ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety dmb21 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/panic-attack-strikes-again-76895/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/help-76890/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:55:27 GMT I'm home alone and a group of Jehovah's Witnesses are walking in my neighborhood! :hide
I'm assuming they are JH since several couples are dressed formally and are holding Bibles. Looking from my window they are coming closer. Should I ignore them or respond to them? My first reaction is too ignore them but maybe engaging with them will help overcome my SA?
I should get dressed since I look like a bum. :roll
p.s. I'm an atheist... ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety rcapo89 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/help-76890/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/looking-people-in-the-eyes-76869/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:00:23 GMT it really tough for me to look someone in the eyes or smile at someone i don't know. does anyone else have this problem if so what do you do to work on it? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety mario1016 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/looking-people-in-the-eyes-76869/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-seek-treatment-76863/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:46:28 GMT Hi

I'm a freshmen in college, and I think i've had SA since I was a junior in high school. I never did anything about it. Still haven't done anything about it. Well the school's counseling center phone number is everywhere and all I'd have to do it call and make an appointment. I think that I should. I'm just wondering how long it took for you guys to get help? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety pittfan624 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-seek-treatment-76863/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/difference-between-being-shy-and-having-sa-76860/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 05:55:07 GMT I wanted to hear what u guys think about my belief that shyness and SA r quite different. Ex. Me. I would say I'm a rather "normal" guy who probabily would never come off awkward to anyone without SA. I probabily never really do even with it. I think its in my head. I consider myself to be strong-minded in most aspects of my life, except this but I force myself through it. I definitely feel it holds me back in many ways. Anyway, my point is, I dont feel like a shy person, just an anxious person. What do u guys think? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety Chaser http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/difference-between-being-shy-and-having-sa-76860/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/ei-think-a-found-a-key-elment-in-my-shyness-76855/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:14:02 GMT Ok so I was smoking pot today and I got revelation. I now know a strong reason why I am shy when talking to girls; because I am afraid of what other... Ok so I was smoking pot today and I got revelation. I now know a strong reason why I am shy when talking to girls; because I am afraid of what other men will think of me. Like if I am talking to a girl and the other guys will judge me for what I say and how I say it since the test of a man in life is a woman.

Not only will the girl judge me, but men around will judge your being by how you speak to a woman.

It is like you go to judgement day every time you talk to a woman.


Anyways, I hope this makes sense cause I am still pretty high. ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety Ununderstood http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/ei-think-a-found-a-key-elment-in-my-shyness-76855/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/being-that-guy-76854/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:29:11 GMT In my chemistry lab today, two of the people, guy and a girl, who work next to me were talking. The girl was talking about how there's a guy in the lecture who sits next to her all the time. The guy said that he thought that guy was was her boyfriend, to which she replied, "Hell no!" and said he was just some creep who kept sitting next to her in class and would always follow her out of class, but she was too "nice" to say anything to him. While I listening to that, I couldn't help but feel kinda sorry for that guy.

That's kind of the thing that I'm always worried about in meeting and talking to new people, be they male or female. Here you are thinking you guys are really hitting it off, but they really don't like you at all. They're just tolerating you because they don't have the heart to tell you to **** off.

Anybody had experiences like this? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety Peter Attis http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/being-that-guy-76854/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/comfort-zone-advice-welcome-76846/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:57:13 GMT Hello, my name is Jon, and I'm from New Hampshire. Over the last few years, I have begun to feel as though my fear of public places has become an obstacle to both my social life and career. It's hard to quite figure out where it all began, but I become really nervous about going anywhere that isn't home or work.

I am a successful manager, and my job involves 100% travel. Public speaking is part of my job, and I speak to groups ranging from three to four hundred on a daily basis. I am outspoken, pleasant and really positive in the workplace. But, that is where it ends.

Coworkers, and others I have just met on the job will frequently ask me to join them for lunch, dinner, or drinks after work. At that moment, I am instantly panic-stricken, and will find any excuse possible to "bail out." In fact, I am uncomfortable spending time with anyone who is not a childhood friend (who I may see once in a few months time), my parents, or my girlfriend of four years.

Whenever I am "lured" into situations which I cannot protest my way out of, I become so nervous that I have nothing to say. This has caused my coworkers, superiors, and new aquaintances to call me "strange" and "wierd." People have even told me that I make them uncomfortable, asking how I can be so cheery at work, yet so dismall off-the-clock.

I wish I knew what to do. Earlier this week, I delivered my finest speach to date, motivating a group of three hundred toward a common goal. But, my girlfriend and I sit in silence at the local bar, as I am more concerned about what the other patrons are thinking. Or like the other day, when my manager wanted to take my out to lunch, but I had nothing to say to him.

How can I feel so confortable at work, but nowhere else? I'm tired of leaving my job and going straight home. I'm tired of not wanting to pick up the phone when it rings. I'm tired of not experiencing anything but work. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I can do? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety jfcorby79 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/comfort-zone-advice-welcome-76846/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/my-perfect-life-dream-76833/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:05:26 GMT Well guys i kinda wanted to share with you my perfect way of life dream dont know about you but thats how i would like to live. First of all i... Well guys i kinda wanted to share with you my perfect way of life dream dont know about you but thats how i would like to live.

First of all i always wanted to live in some natural kinda place near a lake in some hut kinda house or something with the starts covering the skys at night
having some nice job and having few friends that always stick with you that you would have fun with around like 5 friends dont like many people. having a fun life traviling, having a GF with sa so you could both try to overcome it and have fun with her(in a non sexual way lol but thats too haha) and having a happey bright life. ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety jack1 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/my-perfect-life-dream-76833/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/thinking-of-quitting-my-job-today-out-of-anxiety-76825/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:14:14 GMT Im not sure if its out of anxiety. I work at a record store twice a week typically alone except when I first start my shift. Ive been there... Im not sure if its out of anxiety.

I work at a record store twice a week typically alone except when I first start my shift. Ive been there almost a year and my anxiety has not improved with my boss or many types of customers. I feel like Ive been able to live with it relatively well there, showing up every day and gritting my teeth through some of the more obvious awkward moments like when my boss one day picked up the counterfeit-detecting highlighter and marked me, declaring I was a fake. I stood stiff as a plank with a stupid sad grin and said nothing.
Anyway. Im not making much money or getting better at this music selling job, but it does offer me seclusion in a store full of CDs with no supervision. God i must be crazy to give it up, but I would really rather quit before I get fired. I think there are probably a lot of people more qualified and good at speaking to people about music. I am conflicted.
Anyone relate or have any advice? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety brainsqueegee http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/thinking-of-quitting-my-job-today-out-of-anxiety-76825/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/share-your-story-with-the-world-76823/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:44:29 GMT *Send your stories about S.A.D and other questions, concerns, rants, raves, and possible blog ideas to my email address (cherrylipsdesigns@gmail.com)... Send your stories about S.A.D and other questions, concerns, rants, raves, and possible blog ideas to my email address (cherrylipsdesigns@gmail.com) with the subject MJB and I will give you the sweetest reply. I may even repost in my blog www.cdthequeen.blogspot.com

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]]> Coping With Social Anxiety pinkbunnyxxx http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/share-your-story-with-the-world-76823/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/question-about-a-possible-trigger-76822/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:41:09 GMT I seem to have SA really bad in school more than anywhere else. I graduated from high school in 03 and since then just always worked and didn't seem to have it as bad. Anyway I just started college this semester and it seems worse again. Especially in the classes with auditorium seating cuz were packed together like sardines, and I'm 6'3 lol. I'm able to have conversations with people in class though, I think Ive gotten good at hiding my nervousness. I'm sure that I appear normal but I dont feel that I am and never did for some reason, even though I have normal interests and a sense of humor and stuff like that. I've always managed to have a group of friends and 3 gf, one was serious. Once I really get to know someone it goes away, for the most part. But its having to do the work of getting to know them that I get sick of. It doesn't help that I've been moving every year or two for my whole life either. I wonder if the bad memories of school from the past triggered it again. What do u guys think? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety Chaser http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/question-about-a-possible-trigger-76822/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/what-do-your-parents-think-of-your-sa-76804/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:15:26 GMT My mom doesn't even believe that SA is a real disorder. She just thinks that I'm shy and that I need to get over it :roll. If only it were that easy! ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety girlwiththehair http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/what-do-your-parents-think-of-your-sa-76804/