http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ A place for older members to hang out. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:03:46 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/styles/SAS/misc/rss.jpg http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/anybody-want-to-chat-76891/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:57:14 GMT I'm 48 yrs old and would love to chat with someone in my age range or in their 50's..my yahoo messenger id is outtheblue47..I'd love to hear from you..:) ]]> Crickets outtheblue http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/anybody-want-to-chat-76891/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/interview-tomorrow-76802/ Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:05:34 GMT I have an important interview tomorrow. I'm nervous but trying not to go into a mental paralysis because of it. I'm researching the job and the employer and going through questions and answers. I am refusing to do any housework until I feel comfortable with my answers. It's much easier to answer to an invisible person and be able to talk slowly and shift my eyes than it will be to talk in person. I also don't know how I'm going to get there, as I have no car.

I'm open to well wishers, pats on the back, and atta girls!!! :yes __________________ ]]> Crickets epril http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/interview-tomorrow-76802/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/too-nervous-around-goodlooking-man-76340/ Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:37:52 GMT :helpThere's this good looking co worker (Richie), with whom I get extremely self conscious and nervous/anxiety stricken around..the worst part is that it affects my ability to be myself with one other friendly male coworker ( Mike)..I tense up/freeze/start shaking/can't speak right with Mike the minute I know Richie is nearby....I'm wondering if I should tell Mike that I get like this , because I find Richie goodlooking and I fear Mike knowing it, and think he'll look down on me and ridicule me because of it..I want to tell Mike(who's pretty trustworthy) to promise me not to tell ANYONE about this, but I'm not so sure he'll keep That promise..Mike's girlfriend (Carol) just retired from the job, and he tells everything to her..and Carol is a gossiper, and keeps in touch with her ex coworkers..So that is why I haven't said anything to Mike about my nervousness,etc...Even though I'm sure everybody at work knows I'm attracted to Richie, because of my nervous symptoms around him, I find it embarrassing at the same time to tell Mike about it..(and I'm married too!..it's not that I want to go out with Richie..it's just that I find him goodlooking)..so in a nutshell, should I tell Mike about my quirky behavior around him..I do want to be my calm-like self, but Mr Goodlooking had to show up, and now I'm floundering..any ideas as far as what i should do? Thanks for reading this long message..:afr ]]> Crickets outtheblue http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/too-nervous-around-goodlooking-man-76340/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/peoples-court-11-13-09-a-76265/ Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:20:00 GMT Judge Wapner (who is 90 now!) returns for a special episode of the People's Court on Friday. He will also be getting a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. He was the judge that originated over The People's Court when it started in 1981. It launched the court show fad over the next 30 years! ]]> Crickets millenniumman75 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/peoples-court-11-13-09-a-76265/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/what-do-you-think-75786/ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:38:29 GMT Tonight I went to the workshop. There was an improv. game. It seemed fun and at first I was happy to watch everyone else take a turn. I started to... Tonight I went to the workshop. There was an improv. game. It seemed fun and at first I was happy to watch everyone else take a turn. I started to lose a little confidence though as more and more people took their turn. Some were quick, some were funny, and all were lovingly booed when they messed up. The game was winding down and the director was still looking for participants. There was some commotion in the room. I wanted to try, just to challenge myself and see if I could do it, so I put my hand up to volunteer and said, in a louder than normal voice, that I wanted to try, could I please try, I just don't want to go last? And.....I guess no one heard me. The director either didn't hear me, or imo, didn't think I could do it or would be good enough. I don't know. Sometimes this group seems so clicky. Well, it is. There are favorites. Right after I said it, I felt like crap and thought I would start crying, so I walked out the door, not noticeably I believe. Then, I said, screw it, I deserve to be there just as much as anyone, suck up your pride, and go back in. So, I came in another door and continued to listen in.

I just hate being so damn quiet and unknown and shy, and boring. I don't know how to act, and I'm feeling too old for this. I want to be cool and loved, and not ignored. Lately, at this workshop, I feel like a useless dork. I don't know if I should smile and be friendly, or just act cool, or what. I can't even talk to the nice girl with the baby. I feel so inept. I keep telling myself I'm ok, things are sometimes like this, and just suck it up and move on, and I will do this, it's just so hard sometimes.

Does anyone get what I'm saying? Anyone feel the same way? Ever? I think people just don't want to talk to the shy one with no cool and no posse. So, sometimes I seek out the other shy people and sometimes I force myself to be loud. People DO pay more attention to me when I do that. It's like, you have to knock people over the head to be seen, acknowledged and appreciated.

Please please please tell me you care, you understand...something??? ]]> Crickets epril http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/what-do-you-think-75786/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/malcolm-gladwell-10-000-hours-75102/ Wed, 28 Oct 2009 14:32:02 GMT *Outliers* is a non-fiction (http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/wiki/Non-fiction) book written by Malcolm Gladwell... Outliers is a non-fiction book written by Malcolm Gladwell and published by Little, Brown and Company on November 18, 2008. In Outliers, Gladwell examines the factors that contribute to high levels of success. To support his thesis, he examines the causes of why the majority of Canadian ice hockey players are born in the first few months of the calendar year, how Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates achieved his extreme wealth, and how two people with exceptional intelligence, Christopher Langan and J. Robert Oppenheimer, end up with such vastly different fortunes. Throughout the publication, Gladwell repeatedly mentions the "10,000-Hour Rule", claiming that the key to success in any field is, to a large extent, a matter of practising a specific task for a total of around 10,000 hours.


What if we applied this to social anxiety. Malcolm Gladwell thinks it takes 10,000 hours to be a success in any field. What if we spent say 2,000 hours practicing to be more social - do you think we would be less anxious in social situations? What if we spent 2000 hours listening to relaxation tapes. Surely after 2000 hours of practice we would be able to master this task and relax quite easily. ]]> Crickets rubyruby http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f21/malcolm-gladwell-10-000-hours-75102/