http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ Develop weekly goals and share progress with group. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:11:22 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/styles/SAS/misc/rss.jpg http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/join-a-club-on-campus-76892/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:08:24 GMT I've decided that, since I'm going to be at school for another 6 months, I really don't want to be alone every hour of my day that's not spent in class. I don't expect to make too many great, close friends because 1)I obviously have really bad social anxiety, 2)I don't drink or do any kind of drug and most kids on a college campus do, and 3)I get nervous hanging out with groups of more than 4 or some for longer than an hour.
So, in order to get myself out of my room for about an hour a few days a week, I've decided to join a club or two. I'm thinking about the school newspaper; I want to be in culinary publication after I graduate. There's also a club, Chefs Sustaining Agriculture. I'm a strong believer of using local and sustainable ingredients in cuisine. ]]> Goal Setting Miss Meggie http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/join-a-club-on-campus-76892/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/little-steps-76407/ Sat, 14 Nov 2009 16:41:04 GMT I realized that I don't actually do much against sa. Well I visit therapist once a month, but he doesn't give me any direction, I just have to explain him everything over and over again and then he says we're not far enough...
So I decided to do something every day, no matter how small it is.
This is for today, not so small actually:
There is a film festival this month in my town. I thought I was gonna miss it again, because no one would have time to go with me... but well you go to the cinema to see the film, not to be social, so i bought a couple of tickets anyway. Today I'm gonna see the first movie. I'm becoming more and more anxious about it, I hope I will manage to get there. ]]> Goal Setting eitherway http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/little-steps-76407/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/contact-the-mindfulness-center-near-me-76401/ Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:49:52 GMT . . ]]> Goal Setting Breakfast0fChampions http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/contact-the-mindfulness-center-near-me-76401/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/teaching-abroad-76360/ Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:48:13 GMT For a while now I have been thinking about what I am going to do immediately after I graduate and one of the things I have been interesed in is... For a while now I have been thinking about what I am going to do immediately after I graduate and one of the things I have been interesed in is seeing a bit of the world. However, I don't really want to take time out of my personal developement.

Anyway, since I am graduating with a degree in English and Politics, I figure why not apply to those programmes where they send graduates to teach English aboard. Apparently you don't need to know the native language before you go there, since is considered a learning experience (but I probably will spend some time studying it if I get accepted).

I recieved information about apply and relevant forms from my university this week and will be filling them out for initial application over the next couple of days. This probably won't lead to anything since I don't consider myself to be especially qualified, but hey, you never get anything unless you try, right? ]]> Goal Setting Fuzzy Logic http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/teaching-abroad-76360/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-goals-for-the-next-few-months-76276/ Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:08:01 GMT

• Ask people how they are

Usually when people ask me how I am, I just say 'good thanks' automatically but for some reason I feel stupid when I ask them, even if they've already done it first.

• Make eye contact

I can't do this at all now. If I happen to look into their eyes for a fraction of a second, it feels really awkward.

• Smile at strangers

Apparently, this helps some people.

• Don't reject offers to hang out or do stuff

I think that's enough goals for now. I'll update in a week, or sooner if something happens, but I doubt I'll see/talk many people by next Thursday. ]]> Goal Setting xerwb2 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-goals-for-the-next-few-months-76276/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/overall-goals-goals-this-week-75982/ Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:54:24 GMT Ok, so I need to finish my online portfolio of my designwork for my web design class. I usually procrastinate this stuff, so I'm posting it as a goal here to "spur" me to do it. And I usually fail to finish these types of portfolio classes because of performance anxiety, but this time I'm attending a big deal design school...so I don't wanna mess up.

This is just a small step in starting a freelance design website, finding work in my field, and establishing my network contacts.

Goals:
- Fill out inpsipration and style sheets for website design - turn in initial styleguide to my professor
- Figure out type of work I want to display
- Design personal identity logo and attach it to my business cards and resume


If I don't do it whip me:whip ]]> Goal Setting dreamj http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/overall-goals-goals-this-week-75982/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/join-a-salsa-dance-class-75951/ Sat, 07 Nov 2009 13:13:35 GMT I will! :boogie, Eventhough the pictures of people dancing on the course website are enough to make me nervous. I might need some liquid courage for... I will! :boogie, Eventhough the pictures of people dancing on the course website are enough to make me nervous. I might need some liquid courage for this. Wohoo I get a good enough reason to drink again!

To make this a double challenge I could ask a certain girl if she wants to go along with me. But, the whole dance course costs $90 and I hate asking other people to come along to stuff that costs money.
But BUT the first dance class is free, so I could ask her to come along to the first class to 'ease my nerves'.
But but BUT it really won't ease my nerves. In fact it'll do the opposite and freak me the hell out that I have to 'deal' with her AND the dance class.
But but but BUT I've wanted to hang out with her for a while, eventhough I'm not really sure if she'd want to.
But but but but BUT ... I'll stop now. :roll ]]> Goal Setting mind_games http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/join-a-salsa-dance-class-75951/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-big-goals-progress-thread-with-weekly-updates-75808/ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:07:04 GMT I'm making this thread to keep track of my progress. I come up with most of my goals in CBT, but we only put the really easy ones to my weekly schedule, however I'm going to include the others here for the purpose of tracking my progress. I doubt anyone will be interested enough to read this but it's helpful for me at least.

Each week I will update the totals to show the total number of repetitions I've done for each goal, add a post showing which ones I've completed/haven't completed/partially completed that week and add a link to that post at the bottom of this one.

Legend:
(X) Accomplished
( ) Unaccomplished
(0) Number of repetitions accomplished
(0/0) Number of repetitions accomplished/number of repetitions required

Planned, easy, repeatable weekly goals (totals):
(4) Walk to the shop
(2) Go to the gym
(2) Make dinner for myself
(2) Take a bus
(3) Wake up before 10 AM on week days
(8 ) Go to sleep before midnight
( ) Initiate a conversation with a stranger
( ) Work on tidying/redecorating my room

Unscheduled, repeatable, near-future goals (totals):
( ) Take a train
( ) Take a bus into the nearest town
( ) Go to a club or pub on my own
( ) Go shopping on my own
( ) Initiate a conversation with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex
( ) Take 2 buses (or 2 small bus journeys and a train) to visit my friend
( ) Have a driving lesson

Long-term future goals (non-repeatable):
( ) Find a job
( ) Go to college/university/music school
( ) Find my own place
( ) Pass my driving test and get a full driving licence
( ) Get a car
( ) Find a partner

Weeks:
Week 1: 06-11-09
Week 2: 13-11-09 ]]> Goal Setting Duke of Prunes http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-big-goals-progress-thread-with-weekly-updates-75808/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/im-going-to-ask-two-classmates-if-theyd-like-to-75770/ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:21:59 GMT A comedy by the name of Ah, Wilderness! is going to be performed by Drama students at my community college this weekend and next weekend. I'm going to ask a guy and a girl that I've talked the most with in my classes if they'd like to come with me. I'm more likely to get them to come this weekend, I think, because it's the opening weekend. If I ask before next weekend they'll likely to have seen it already and pass on the opportunity to hang out with a babe like me. :b Then again if I really am a babe, they'll be completely unable to pass up the chance.... but anyway! I want to hang out with people that are not my family in a situation as cool as viewing a play.

Do you think I should send out an e-mail to my class in general and see who's going, and see if the two respond? Or do you think I should wait until I see them on Tuesday and ask then? ]]> Goal Setting Breakfast0fChampions http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/im-going-to-ask-two-classmates-if-theyd-like-to-75770/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/get-to-know-a-girl-from-class-better-75760/ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:56:55 GMT I'm not sure how this section works, but I'd like to use it to post this personal goal of mine, to get to know a girl from class better.

Idk why, but I can't think to ask her anything about herself in class... well I do know why, I just don't want everyone hearing our conversation, especially if it goes terribly.

Anyway, I really think I like her, and luckily in a grp together and she asked for me (through phone juggling... which I ****ed up on responding to like a regular person, but fixed things today casually i think...) Anyway... this will be like... the second girl I ever try to get to know (i'm 24, lol...).

I'm not sure what's next, but I'm going to set this goal now, today, to talk with her somewhere more private and get to know her and her to know me cause I'm running out of time.

List of things I will be asking her:
What do you do for fun?
-Are you a musician by any chance?
+Be ready to explain my interest in music

What kind of music do you listen to?

Hey, I noticed your area code is from out of town, where are you from?
-where are you staying hear in town?
--I should have some kind of respons like, oh cool how far / i am too, my place is... / etc.
-are you going home
--...now this is where I'm going to tell her that I donated my car to a family who's home was destroyed in a fire a few days ago... yeah! and one of their children was killed, fighting in Iraq! And I'm all like, "I could really use a ride home" and stuff! Good thing I'm writing this stuff down :yes

...what else would I wanna know about her... I got a paper to do, but I'll be back

should I just facebook her now? She's got like 400 friends! ughh.... damn that book of faces! (oh, that's about 400 more friends than me, btw) ]]> Goal Setting telefy http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/get-to-know-a-girl-from-class-better-75760/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-goal-this-week-75489/ Mon, 02 Nov 2009 04:20:19 GMT There is this girl I have been trying to talk to since the begging of school. It's been about 4 months and I have not meet such a simple goal. This is the week I will achieve my goal. I'm going to talk to this girl. I have an attraction to her and she has been on my mind a lot lately. I'm sure I've caught her smiling at my several times before. Only problem is when I get around her I start to tremble and have the feeling of just wanting to walk away. But this week is different. If I don't do it I'm just going to give up. ]]> Goal Setting Grixxly http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/my-goal-this-week-75489/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/weekly-goals-75487/ Mon, 02 Nov 2009 04:14:10 GMT my goals for this week: 1. go to school everyday and say hi to one person 2. hang out w/ one old friend at least two days this week 3. go... my goals for this week:

1. go to school everyday and say hi to one person

2. hang out w/ one old friend at least two days this week

3. go through w/ meeting my boyfrens mom! :afr ]]> Goal Setting shyprettygirl http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/weekly-goals-75487/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/yes-another-goal-almost-done-here-75463/ Sun, 01 Nov 2009 22:58:05 GMT Yes, I write a lot of goals but it means I'm staying motivated, so here we go!


I don't know why but it has taken me so long to realize that if someone wants a relationship they will make it happen. I guess it has taken me so long to realize because A) never had a successful long term relationship B) used to take rejection so personally that I always thought I was doing something wrong.

My views have changed now. I refuse to think I'm doing something wrong now because I'm not. I'm reasonable and I'm apathetic of others. I'm willing to learn and I'm willing adapt. How does this help me? It helps me because it takes the negative focus off of me and it helps me see things more realistically. I am beginning to realize that it's just about meeting someone who wants the same things. If someone really wants something they will make it happen.

This may sound out of left field but I feel like I'm about to break a major barrier (approaching randomly), and I'm confident if I focus on it I'll gain confidence and adapt. I have the motivation and I'm solely going to focus on that now. I just feel like I am at that point where I am almost done learning what I've wanted to learn and test out about dating, etc, and I'm closing in on my last goals. I have this approach thing I want to master and gain comfort with because it's one of those things that I sometimes feel comfortable with and sometimes don't, and a lot of the times it's experience and just looking at it differently that makes me approach. It may sound unrealistic or too large of something to aim for, but I want to feel confident and ready to approach any women at any time and get a number. This is going to be my focus for a while. I want to make it seem like a normal thing. ]]> Goal Setting bwidger85 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/yes-another-goal-almost-done-here-75463/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/going-out-to-a-bar-75374/ Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:38:24 GMT Yeah, so I posted this in an update to my other thread but no one seems to have noticed... Anyway, the society I joined at uni is going out to bar as... Yeah, so I posted this in an update to my other thread but no one seems to have noticed... Anyway, the society I joined at uni is going out to bar as a group next Wednesday as a way of getting to know each other. I'm pretty nervous because I have never really gone to a place like that before. I haven't gone out at night in years.

Anyway, a question; do I need to wear anything particular or can I just wear whatever? ]]> Goal Setting Fuzzy Logic http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/going-out-to-a-bar-75374/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/drive-on-my-own-college-75155/ Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:58:05 GMT Even though I have my license, I have no confidence driving by myself. The driving test was literally: drive on a few non-busy streets, stoplight,... Even though I have my license, I have no confidence driving by myself. The driving test was literally: drive on a few non-busy streets, stoplight, speed bump, park, done. I never go out with friends because I don't really have any, so I've had no motivation or practice for driving. College depends on me able to drive myself there because everyone's too busy to take me. I can take online classes...but I really need to get outside and conquer this SA. lol :um I think I'll take a driving class or something. Learning to drive with my parents hasn't done much. ]]> Goal Setting shadowguy http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f10/drive-on-my-own-college-75155/