http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ Join our social anxiety forum to ask questions, share your advice, make friends, or just vent. en Thu, 17 May 2012 00:21:14 GMT vBulletin 60 http://i.sasimg.com/forum/images/styles/SAS/misc/rss.jpg http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/problems-like-sa-make-you-more-mature-182005/ Thu, 17 May 2012 00:10:24 GMT I've learned a lot about myself as I have battled SA. Each day I remember that I am still alive and growing stronger. There were days when I wanted to leave the world but I know now that those actions only hinder progress. What do you think? Do life issues make you stronger or weaker beyond repair? ]]> Frustration fire mage64 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/problems-like-sa-make-you-more-mature-182005/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/prom-182003/ Wed, 16 May 2012 23:46:23 GMT So I need a bit of help. My prom is coming up in about half a month, and I'm terrified. I'm going to my boyfriend's prom, an hour and a half away from where I live. It'll be like the 5th time we've been together in person because it's a long distance relationship and we only met a few months ago. I'm not so nervous about being around him, but everything else. I'll be hanging out with his friends for the second time, and the first time I was so nervous I scratched up my arm until it was so bloody that I couldn't scratch anymore, so they probably all think I'm a freak. :oops It'll also be the second time I'm around his parents, but that doesn't worry me as much. I'll be meeting all the rest of his friends, and their prom is really strict, and I have to stay in the building in that room the whole time, so I can't even run out to calm down. I'll be spending that night at his friend's house, and not only do I barely know this kid, but I don't live there so I don't know anything about the area (hospitals, police stations, etc.) so I wouldn't be able to drive anywhere if something happened because I'd get lost. And the next day his friends are throwing him a surprise bithday party so I'll be meeting even more people. I'd really appreciate any possible help, because I have no idea what to do. I don't want to start scratching and bleed all over my dress or at his party, and I can't run out of the situation to calm myself down. I really need help. Seriously, anything is better than nothing!!! :afr ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety briannamarieangela http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/prom-182003/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f24/job-interviews-182002/ Wed, 16 May 2012 23:38:37 GMT So I just graduated from college and am applying for jobs. Anyone have any tips when it comes to interviews?? I applied for a few jobs online last... So I just graduated from college and am applying for jobs. Anyone have any tips when it comes to interviews?? I applied for a few jobs online last night and got a call today (I missed it!) but I will call him back tomorrow because I need time to prepare. He says he wants to talk to me for 5-10 minutes about myself, my goals, and what I want to do. Frankly, I have no idea what to say! What do I want to do?? I just want a job... to get my foot in the door. But if I say that then that just sounds bad. I need to come up with something better to say.

I always screw up the interviews and the phone-interview/screenings because I get so nervous and don't know what to say. It sucks because I honestly think I'm a smart person and could do the job as well as anyone else in my situation, but I have a really hard time expressing and "selling" myself to prospective employers.

Can anyone relate, or have advice???

Nervous. ]]> General Discussion Haydsmom2007 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f24/job-interviews-182002/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f18/why-are-final-exams-made-to-be-worth-30-40-a-182001/ Wed, 16 May 2012 23:16:41 GMT Do you think professors are just being sadistic or what? There is no way I can study properly for this many finals when I'm taking 5 classes. I can understand making one exam 20-25% of the grade but 30-40% is crazy, especially when the professors know that we have other exams as well. And on top of that many final exams are cumulative. How the hell do you review 600 pages?

I'm particularly pissed off at my history professor. She gave us the study guide on the last day of class probably on purpose so that she didn't have to hear too many complaints. Somehow I am supposed to write 4 long essays (3 of which will be on the final) and answer 5 short answer questions that she won't say what they will be about. I feel like wringing her little neck. ]]> Students komorikun http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f18/why-are-final-exams-made-to-be-worth-30-40-a-182001/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f32/obesity-epidemic-in-the-united-states-182000/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:57:35 GMT I'm sure obesity has been discussed over and over again on these forums but I just wanted to share a few really good documentaries on the subject. (Sorry if they were already posted)

First is a recent one by HBO called 'Weight of the Nation'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wwwVOcOZOc
HBO also posted the full 4 part series on youtube.

Second was done by Al Jazeera called Fast Food, Fat Profits
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slwgXXVXM3I

As mentioned by them and other reports the issue is a multifaceted one. It has to do with the agriculture industry, government, health care, poverty, fast food, suburbia and even small things such as the lack of pedestrian walkways.

What are your thoughts and opinions on the matter? : ) ]]> pbandjam http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f32/obesity-epidemic-in-the-united-states-182000/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f32/man-openly-admits-hatred-for-contestant-based-on-race-181999/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:50:26 GMT One of the Judges for a show called Without Prejudice openly admits he doesn't like the contestant because of his race, one of the users below me made a valid point the original question I asked was stupid.

I know, some how this thread is going to get closed (welcome me to the Closed Thread Brah) maybe we'll stay open for business I'll have to see. Best of luck to you and let the thread begin :) I can't edited by thread title but that should actually be dislike not hate, he dislikes the contestant on the bases of being black.

We can't ignore the fact that the guy is a minority himself, you can imagine how mad he'd be if the gentleman calling him out would have turned around and said he didn't like him because he's from the islands and made a disparaging remark about him being Hawaiian

Oops link ]]> Ironpain http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f32/man-openly-admits-hatred-for-contestant-based-on-race-181999/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/walking-past-construction-workers-181998/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:47:47 GMT Whenever I see them I want to run in the opposite direction.

Once one notices you it's all over. He'll point you out to his buddies and they all just stare at you the whole way down the street just sizing you up. It's so uncomfortable! As soon as you get into range they start shouting things like "Hey baby" or whistling. I'm not even particularly attractive! Rargh!

Any advice on how to deal with this? ]]> Frustration Blanck http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/walking-past-construction-workers-181998/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/sad-ruining-your-education-181997/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:41:45 GMT man this really is a disorder. I was simply too afraid to do certain things that i needed to do to pass, and in the end I failed. I'm scared right now because I don't know what to do. I want to go to another school but I feel like I'm hopeless and may end up in the same situation. Today was one of the worst days I had in years. I felt so horrible I actually went to sleep to avoid feeling like this.I can't wait till it's bed time:|

any advice would be appriciated. Also what about you? Do you feel like your SA is having(or had) a serious toll on your performances? ]]> Coping With Social Anxiety tigerblood http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/sad-ruining-your-education-181997/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/its-my-birthday-today-181996/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:34:19 GMT i dont like making a big deal out of my birthday, but this one seems to be particularly depressing. first off, i just dont want to be 17. i feel like... i dont like making a big deal out of my birthday, but this one seems to be particularly depressing. first off, i just dont want to be 17. i feel like i wasted my teenage years, and now they're ending. 16 was my first good year as a teenager, and im sad to see it end. im not going to have any sort of party obviously, but what makes me sad is that this year i cant even rely on my family to cheer me up... i dont live with my parents (who i am very close to), i live with my grandparents, who i am also close to (in a different way). However, my crazy uncle has dinner with us almost every night, and he's been torturing me to go to his house to help him use ebay (yup. even though he's used it before). ive done this for him before, but he ends up keeping me there for hours, and he's just not that pleasant. right now i have so much schoolwork that i couldnt do it even if i wanted to... anyway, i keep telling him this, but he keeps guilt tripping me, and it's just not fun. my other uncle wont help me at all. he always disappoints me when he says he'll help me. my cousin who i love spending time with was supposed to come for dinner, but he cant make it anymore...so it's going to be me, my grandparents, and my crazy uncle, just like every night... and my other uncle has treated me with no respect at all (for lots of other reasons, but this is already too long). He didnt even wish me a happy birthday. all he can do is keep saying "im here for you, ill help you with the crazy guy, ill do the ebay thing, you can always come to me"...sigh, but that's another story anyway...sorry about that, just feeling down =/ needed to vent ]]> Frustration SeeMeWhenImInvisible http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/its-my-birthday-today-181996/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/why-is-this-guy-at-work-acting-cold-181995/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:24:06 GMT So 2 months ago I started temping in an office for someone who is currently out on medical leave. I really like the office and everyone I work with.... So 2 months ago I started temping in an office for someone who is currently out on medical leave. I really like the office and everyone I work with. I even started to develop a crush on one of the men I work with. I am in my early 20s and he is in his early 30s. He is not my supervisor at work but he is higher on the totem pole than I am as far as work goes. He is not married. Doesn't have kids. Pretty sure he is single (whenever we would talk about plans we had it was always just either him or him & his buddies).

At first I was intimadated by him. After a bit more time here I felt like he started to warm up to me. I even felt like there were times he would flirt with me. There were little things he would do that made me think we were attracted to one another. For example whenever I would go to his office to bring him paperwork there would be a few seconds when we would look at each other & it just made me feel all nervous and giddy. It made me so nervous I would start to blush and would have to look away.

I also felt like he would find little ways to tease me. For example he would pick on me when I'd be doing something. He would joke about how I was doing it wrong and I would find something witty to say back. We basically would tease each other.

There were also a few times when I notice he would try to help me with things I was doing, even if I didn't ask for his help yet.

For a while I was wondering...are we flirting? Are we into each other? Is he into me the same way I'm into him? He made me giddy but it made work exciting!

I continued to find little ways to flirt with him but lately I feel like he's been acting a lot colder towards me. He used to be so warm and inviting and now I feel like something has changed. He doesn't find ways to chit chat or tease me like he used to. Now when we pass each other its like I have to pretend like I don't notice him. Any ideas on why the sudden change? Could he be trying to convey that he is not into me like that? Normally this wouldn't bother me but I like him and for a little while there I kinda felt like maybe he could be into me too. Could I have totally read it wrong? I want him to tease me again or something...anything.

What is going on? Any ideas? I am leaving the office soon because my time here is almost over. ]]> Frustration Tiger20 http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/why-is-this-guy-at-work-acting-cold-181995/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f9/my-boss-at-work-told-me-i-was-the-man-181994/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:20:39 GMT My Boss at work told me I was the man because I work so much (I'm a lifeguard and this is my 4th year working at this pool)... and because I always can be counted on to cover other peoples shifts.

It was also nice to hear because I thought she was mad at me because I didn't reply to a message from her for a while :B ]]> Triumphs Over Social Anxiety offthechainjoe http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f9/my-boss-at-work-told-me-i-was-the-man-181994/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f9/girl-tweeted-that-i-made-her-day-better-181993/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:18:23 GMT I texted my friend randomly yesterday and had a nice little conversation with her, where I learned she had been undergoing surgery :/ I later saw... I texted my friend randomly yesterday and had a nice little conversation with her, where I learned she had been undergoing surgery :/

I later saw that she tweeted (on twitter) that I (Joe) had brightened her day. So I felt special :) ]]> Triumphs Over Social Anxiety offthechainjoe http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f9/girl-tweeted-that-i-made-her-day-better-181993/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f30/should-i-add-nortriptyline-or-wellbutrin-with-parnate-181992/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:02:25 GMT I came back a bit on the dosage of Parnate, now at 20 mg again, I'm a little less sleepy, but it's probably all placebo of thinking that I'm taking less.

Anyways, what has better potential, adding wellbutrin to parnate or nortriptyline to parnate. I'd prefer not adding a stimulant because I don't like the idea of having depressive crashes, even if I'm super productive for a few hours.

Nortriptyline seems more common of the two. I am struggling with motivation currently, it might be because I have 0 energy and sleep 15 hrs a day and feel like my muscles are paralyzed so that might just be it.

And btw, I have panic disorder + MDD. ]]> Medication gilmourr http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f30/should-i-add-nortriptyline-or-wellbutrin-with-parnate-181992/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f25/hello-all-181991/ Wed, 16 May 2012 22:01:58 GMT Just wanted to say hi, I'm new here.

I've had social anxiety for my whole life, and I'm only now working to get over it.

So yeah! Haha don't really know what more to say. :) ]]> The First Step lookingforthemagic http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f25/hello-all-181991/ http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f25/hi-question-about-seeing-the-doctor-181989/ Wed, 16 May 2012 21:43:51 GMT Hi! I'm new to this forum. I have SAD (I think!) and have had it all my life and it's about time I do something about it. I want to go and see my GP (I live in the UK, so free healthcare) but if s/he officially diagnoses me with SAD, it will be on my records forever (I think). This means any job that I apply for and requires a medical will see this and it could be a drawback., right? That's why I'm hesitant.

Also what are the most successful drugs for it? Obviously different things work for different people, but surely there's something that works for the majority of people. From what I can gather, Adderall and Xanax seem to work.

Any input is really appreciated!

Thanks. ]]> The First Step Fifteen http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f25/hi-question-about-seeing-the-doctor-181989/