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Originally Posted by _AJ_
I had a revelation the other day:
I say I have SA because its a good excuse to avoid social situations and to avoid being weak.
for example, when I have to fight for my rights against someone, I dont. My justification for that my SA prevents me. cause thats less hurtful than knowing im weak.
when I want to make friends or form relationships, I don't. my justification is that I have SA , so
"I can't have a fun conversation cause i have sa"
I also use laziness alot.
"Im too lazy to go out and meet people, Im too lazy to put the effort in to conversation"
but the thing is, it does hurt and there is painful anxiety to do these things! theres no doubt about that. BUT avoiding the real problem is not the answer.
so Im just gona face the real issue here! and that is that I am weak socially! I am weak compared to all these extroverted people i see.
so when someone asks: "Why so quiet?"
my response: "cause Im weak, but I dont wanna be, so lets talk  " |
That's awesome, seriously. Being "weak" as an introvert does not mean your helpless. In fact, your willpower speaks for itself! Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. Astonishingly, even some extroverts think of themselves as shy at times. It's our choice to be either at any given time because we are neither concretely introverts nor extroverts if we take action. Our focus remains on our perceived "negative" aspects of ourselves, yet we can always use these emotions as something positive. We can turn our negatives into motivation, into learning, into confidence. My point is, as often as you may of heard this before, whether extroverted or introverted, we ALL are set on the same playing field with the same rules. Being introverted means you may have to work harder on the inside to do things but on the outside your amongst the same VIP's in the arena, and if you give yourself the chance to be in the same league you'll do just as well or better than anyone else because we are all on the same playing field. Your doing a great job AJ! Your achieving so much more than you know! I'm almost jealous about the girls, seriously... :P
If I asked why someone was quiet and they told me because they felt weak I would instantly admire their honesty. It's refreshing to hear someone speak from their heart rather than what others want to hear.