Sorry to hear about your mom being clingy and controlling. You need to sit down and talk to her about it and you need to explain that you're an adult and that you can make your own decisions. My parents are the same way, the don't want me to drive, they don't want me to join the Army, and they are constantly trying to push college on me. The best way to get them to leave you alone is to severely piss them off. I had to see a psychologist who was studying my mom and my step dad so he could decide who gets custody of my little sister so I told the psychologist that I thought my mom was a lousy parent. Now she barely talks to me. If she didn't want to be called a lousy parent she should not have been a lousy parent.