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Old 12-22-2008, 09:30 PM   #2 (permalink)
Halcyon Daze
 
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Originally Posted by Anon7 View Post

I see people on these forums talking about avoiding people and avoiding situations and it makes them seem like jerks, even though they're just afraid... but doesn't that mean they are showing people a bad side of them?

If they were afraid of what they looked like, why would they not show up to an event or avoid a relative making them look really bad?
It does seem like we are contradicting ourselves doesn't it? I am aware sometimes of how rude I look, and I do agree that I'm scared to make mistakes and look stupid. If I feel that I have the option to avoid any situation in which I may come off stupid etc then I will take it even if I come across as rude. It's the lesser of two evils for me. It does make me sad that people think I'm rude or that I don't like them though.
It's a catch 22. I've heard that it doesn't matter how you treat people as long as you treat everyone the same. An odd saying, but I would like to be comfortable and nice to everyone someday instead of always worrying about myself. I feel selfish being the way I am.

I like your thoughts, thanks for sharing.
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