I hated myself for a long time. I had a lot of bad habits and not very many good ones, and I knew this. I knew what I needed to do to change my life but couldn't bring myself to do them. Then whilst discussing this with a close friend the answer came to me:
Because I believed that I was this no good useless person, my brain responded to that, and carried on behaving in a way that a no good useless person would. Somewhere down the line in my life, I had fallen down and never really picked myself up and carried on, which is what I should have done. Instead I not only let my life spiral downwards and started telling myself that I was a loser, with various negative affirmations. One bad habit lead to another and so on. I believed that I was a loser and that was that. I never really took control of myself. I just hoped that a day would come a long and everything would just fix itself, but it never really did.
Then, like I mentioned above whilst talking to a close friend, it hit me. I had allowed all of this to happen to me and not really stopped it, or tried to turn it around. I looked into the matter a little more deeply and here's what I did:
1) I set myself some goals, asking myself what do I really want out of life? And then set myself a daily, weekly and monthly plan to achieve them. What do you want now, what do you want this year, what do you want out of life? Be honest and realistic and then plan how you will achieve them.
2) I wrote down a number activities I could do in order to elevate my moods. Join a interest or hobby group/class, and make more friends or plan a day or weekend out. Surround yourself with positive people and keep your distance from negative people (who will make you feel negative too)
3) Exercise, take vitamins, eat lots of fruit and veg, water etc. Vitamins B6 and B12 are natural mood elevators, and lacking certain vitamins can bring your mood down.
4) Use aromatherapy oils that will elevate your mood at home. They really help
5) always look at the positive of things. When your mind starts thinking negative things, say to yourself, "No. Stop. I am not going to allow myself to do this. I want to be happy and positive, I will be happy and positive"
6) If you believe in a Creator, then pray and ask for help and guidance. Spiritual people tend to have much more peace and happiness in their lives.
7) Tidy your home, so many people I know who have felt like this have cluttered homes. Mine was the worst! You will see a huge difference in how you feel.
When your walking towards what you want, life doesn't feel so tedious anymore. It's like having a map, you know where you are going. Yes there maybe mountains and swamps along the journey, but when you know what treasures lie on the other side, it doesn't bother you.
The above worked for me and I'm certain it can turn the life of others around too. Take your time and be realistic withyourself. Remember a person's frame of mind can make or break them. But it is only you who can do it. Don't let society or tv or glossy magazines dictate how to live your life, you are unique person. Use your own brain and accept yourself.
I'd love to know if any of the above helps anyone. please do drop me a line