I originally posted the following in that forum in another post, but I deleted it because I didn't feel like it was the best place to post afterall. I'll leave that forum and thread untarnished.
Why did that topic about SA, abusive men, and women who avoid conflict posted by "SAD Awareness" get deleted? Just because some people on here claim to not fit the description in that article doesn't mean it shouldn't be discussed. People like the ones discussed in the article do exist and everyone should be aware of it. It was good food for thought, imo.
What, did it come down to people being afraid of another gender war? With all the sensitive people and topics, I can see just about every topic becoming hands off on here eventually, which hopefully wont happen because it'd render this site useless. Perhaps if some things that are considered hands off were allowed to be discussed, the people who write disparaging things about women, men, or whoever would stop once they have an understanding of their own behavior, as well as the behavior of the people who they feel have done them wrong. By not allowing discussion, understanding cannot be reached, and it probably leaves an even bigger mess than before.
Continuously avoiding sensitive subjects only makes a person's fears worse (I'm sure people know this, but I'll remind everyone again, just in case someone forgot) and increases the chances of their problems becoming chronic. I think it is NECESSARY to confront the sensitive subjects in order to move forward and decrease one's anxiety. Putting someone in a position where they are going out of their comfort zone (I see it as being in another person's best interest to do this, in the end) to desensitize themselves to a subject (or situation) is what is going to set someone free and end or decrease their problem.
Enabling someone to avoid their problems is not supportive and not in a person's best interest. To me, encouraging someone to go outside their comfort zone (this includes reading things you don't agree w/ - if you are not ready to face something, avoid it, but don't go and ruin it for others who are ready to confront their issue by making a big fuss and getting a topic closed) is the real definition of SUPPORT.
Some people on here are too controlling, and let me just say, wanting to control everything (or most everything) someone else does that is not compatible w/ your personal beliefs and opinions, isn't going to help your social life much (in terms of quality)...at least not in the long run.
I'm glad the people reading have a long enough attention span to have gotten to this point. If you just happened to stumble on this sentence before you finished reading my post, well, hopefully you at least got the jist and will make a note to work on your attention span some more. Ha Ha (just kidding - sort of). Anyway, I think what I said should be given some thought and that the quality of support could be improved here, but I won't make this post any longer than it already is.
Thanks.