Shy people are in demand, they usually get stuck with the boring person who won't stop talking. At first I would be happy someone talked to me, then would wonder how to shake off the person (in a nice way ) who monopolizing on all my time. I also noticed that in the past I would focus on the most extroverted one because I guess I believed if that person accepted me (the leader) as part of the group then the rest would (the followers). Over time I realized that the nicest people were the quieter and more sincere ones, not the loud person's phoney clique. I call them phoney because if the leader signals someone is 'out' and unaccepted in the clique, then they don't use their own minds to decide independently, they won't associate with those that are 'out'